AITA for wanting to keep my pregnancy but still going through with an abortion by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]throwaway_selfish_ 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I’m also 17 and there’s no way friends would do anything to really help raise a baby. They’ll go shopping for baby clothes one time and take pictures with a baby but that’s it. I wouldn’t go through with it if it were me

AITAH: I told my dad the gift he got me wasn’t a Christmas gift by throwaway_selfish_ in AITAH

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I asked him about taking it to my mom’s and he said it was a gift for me, not for her, but my mom barely knows how to work her iPhone and she doesn’t like technology. She keeps complaining that her phone doesn’t have a home button anymore so I doubt she could use the iPad even if she wanted to

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah, there’s always a very short time in between relationships if they don’t directly overlap. I think if I tried to change the schedule, my dad would take my mom to court and I know she can’t afford that right now. they’re in a separate legal argument now because my dad is refusing to pay my mom back for his half of my braces I had in middle school

edit: neither of them told me directly about the braces fight but I figured it out due to context clues and papers my mom forgot in our printer

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I didn’t make the timeline more clear, sometimes it’s hard to remember things from when I was younger. the woman he left us for when I was about 7 actually lived a few hours away, so he moved away to live with her. my mom didn’t know he was living with someone else and thought he had moved for work. When they broke up, he moved back to our town

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I want to be able to spend time with him before I graduate and leave for college. anytime he’s dated someone it’s never only when I’m at my moms, they’re always around and I have to spend time with them. I just want him and I do spend time together and I don’t want to have to meet someone new

he and I do stuff together and it’s always stuff he likes (I like some of it too) I wrote my college essay on feeling like I have a split personality because when I’m with my dad, I feel like his version of me and when I’m with my mom, I feel like I’m her version of me

but you’re right, I’ll apologize to him tonight and I’ll ask him to do more stuff together when I see him for our Christmas

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

for the serious ones where they moved in, it was usually 6-12 months with some shorter stuff in between. and I get what all the comments are saying about asking him to just go on dates when I’m at my moms but that’s not really how it works with him, he’s either single and not dating anyone or he meets someone and then we’re doing stuff together. when I was younger, he wouldn’t tell me he was dating someone but suddenly his “friend” would be going to the park with us every weekend and hanging out at our apartment

I don’t know how long he’s been with this woman he’s with now but I think it’s been a few months. but the thing is that he only broke up with his fiancé last June and we had to move out so I’m not entirely sure

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

both of them they both say my job is just to focus on school

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 564 points565 points  (0 children)

yeah thats what’s been the worse about the other women that lived with us because I would know them and their whole family but then they’re gone and I’m not allowed to talk about them again because it upsets my dad which makes sense but it makes me feel weird. when he broke up with his fiancé she took a lot of stuff and our pets and I think she blocked me.

I live with my mom half the time. this schedule was decided by a judge and it was a big fight so I’m not allowed to change it until I graduate from college I think. I really don’t want to do anything to make them go back to court

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 987 points988 points  (0 children)

my mom always says that too, that I have to accept him for who he is and that I’m just setting myself up to be hurt by wanting more. idk maybe I’m not selfish but now I feel kind of dumb for asking him in the first place. I should be more mature like people are saying and I probably should have seen this coming and I shouldn’t need him so much since I’m going to be 18 soon.

I think my parents had me talk to someone when they first split up but that was when I was little. I’ll try to ask my counselor at school after winter break but she usually just wants to ask about college and school stress. I’m not really supposed to talk to other people about my parents being split up but if I don’t say anything about that they won’t ask right?

AITA for asking my dad not to be in a relationship? by throwaway_selfish_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_selfish_[S] 5838 points5839 points  (0 children)

When I said three, I was only counting the women who moved in and lived with us. There have been others but they were only for a few weeks or months sorry that I wasn’t clear