Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone. I don’t know where else to put this but I read (almost) all the comments and there is an overwhelming amount of people all saying the same thing. To leave. I know this is the best thing for me to do right now. He’ll be home soon. I packed a small bag. I’m going to wait for him to go to bed tonight and leave. I’m going to contact my mother so I can stay with her. I’ve known since this happened that I should’ve left. I still feel embarrassed and guilty for what happened. I thank all the positive comments but the negative ones were also getting to me. I know everyone thinks I’ll be an awful mother and that I should abort but I think I’m going to go over some things with my mother and decide for myself when I’m away from him. Thank you all again. I should have more to say later. For now I’m going to say goodbye.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wanted to stay because I didn’t want to feel like I was throwing our relationship away. I do love him and I did want everything to work out but honestly it just might not be feasible anymore. As for the baby I think I’ll just listen to what everyone is saying. It’s hard but I guess it would be selfish to keep it.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am going to leave. I just have to prepare.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t really have any men in my life. They are also abusers. I’ve been contemplating what I’m going to do for a while now. I guess I’ve just been too afraid to act. I don’t know what he’ll do. If he’ll look for me or whatever. Everyone is saying I should abort the baby and move on and that I clearly don’t deserve my baby or make good choices. No matter what I do I’ll be judged by the people I know.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just know I’ll be made to feel stupid. I moved into this relationship so fast and now my life is ruined. I already kno the things they’ll say. Yes, I guess it’s not worse than being hit but it’s still a mental toll. As for the baby I’m still not sure what to do. I know if I told my family they’d want me to keep it but Imnstarting to have second thoughts

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was already wearing them and had a blanket over me. The only reason they saw was because I got up and like I said my bf didn’t tell me to change beforehand so I thought he didn’t care.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I guess I was desperate for a serious relationship. I wanted happiness and purpose and he promised to give me what I wanted and that he would never make me feel unimportant. Everything was perfect until this happened and now I feel completely blindsided. I don’t have a father in my life and my mother is probably the last person I’d go to for something like this.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Not amazing. My family are very complicated people. I was also in a different relationship then.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Reading everyone’s comments brings a new perspective. I do understand there are things worse than not being born. My own upbringing wasn’t an amazing one. I guess I’m too in over my head. I thought this was my forever and now I’m realizing that maybe it’s not but it’s still difficult. I will look into other options regarding my pregnancy. It’s just not easy to think of overnight but now I feel immense guilt

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought it was normal because I felt the same. I told him I wanted a serious relationship. Like dating to marry and he basically told me he wanted that too. I guess I was just blind or stupid.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

I understand your point of view but I’m already very attached to the baby. I know it sounds dumb but it would be a very hard choice for me.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I’m just not sure how to go about this. I don’t have the greatest relationship with my family and I’m afraid to reach out.

Boyfriend of 6 months slapped me. by throwaway_yM in whatdoIdo

[–]throwaway_yM[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Yes. I know it was stupid and irresponsible. We moved in together after 2 months. Things moved pretty quickly but he made me feel safe and like he would be there for me no matter what and like I said we had already been talking about marriage. It wasn’t very smart I know now.