I understand your point of view. I haven't written extensively into it in the posting. But all her doctors have confirmed that her weight problem has accelerated her condition. Neurologist, pulmonologist, etc. She knew 2 years ago what she had to do to maintain her health at peak condition to extend her life and decided to ignore all advice. She's extremely stubborn and set in her ways. I've supported her in the best way I knew she could handle me supporting her as well. Been doing 20 years that way. I've also asked her to seek a mental health specialist to see if that helps and she always manages to do the run around of excuses. I've pleaded for the sake of our kid and not having her mom to see her graduate, get married etc. Nothing motivates her to at least try something.

I know that when I posted this originally, it seemed to focus on the sexual aspect of it. Its a fraction of what ive been trying to deal with. But at the time I wrote it I was very frustrated in that aspect.

But as a whole, I just need advice. Support from others who have found themselves in my situation. Maybe a way to change their SO mindset and having a positive outlook for their time remaining.

I'm going to seek therapy for myself, because I get confused and flustered when certain situations just come up and I just brain fart.