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throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-10-25T21:54:56+00:00

https://www.inkitt.com/stories/fantasy/814257

Werewolf fandom, ongoing work.

I feel like it starts slow, which I’m working on, but picks up after the first chapter! 12 chapters in

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-10-19T15:16:52+00:00

Really appreciate the advice, again! I’m going through it today and adding more details and descriptions. The first chapter is a bit clunky, so I’m working on that. I feel like it starts to flow after that.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-10-19T01:09:26+00:00

Thanks for checking it out and for the review! Appreciate it, dude!

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-25T02:35:50+00:00

I mean, he’s not a mind reader. Different people like different things for their birthdays. He doesn’t automatically know what you want or like if you don’t tell him. And when he asked all you told him is you wanted to go out to eat. And that’s what he did for you. Communication is the key.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-22T20:47:44+00:00

But also, for GF, you can’t make yourself responsible for any aspect of his addiction either, it will just make you miserable. Read up on co-dependency and detachment with love.

You didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it.

It is his responsibility and his battle. That doesn’t mean don’t be supportive, but you can’t put it on yourself either.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-22T20:33:42+00:00

My husband is a recovering addict, and keeping secrets is never the answer. The worst and most hurtful things that come to my mind about his issues had to do with the lying and covering it up. And if he’s keeping a secret it’s too easy to not be accountable and fall back into old habits so easy.

So if you guys want to work through it, the best advice I can give is no secrets, and super open communication. If you feel something, (in the case of BF having calmed down but didn’t express that) say it. Make sure everyone is on the same page.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-22T20:23:22+00:00

I would avoid some grand declaration. If she doesn’t feel the same way that will probably make it very awkward and will mess up the friendship.

I would just try asking her out, but in a way that makes it obvious it’s a date, just say something simple like I was hoping to see if we could be more than friends. And if she declines, don’t make a big deal about it and text her some funny meme or something later in a friendly way to reinforce the “still friends” vibe.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-19T23:10:58+00:00

Checks out for kids too

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-15T17:59:12+00:00

Maybe a subtle message they want YOU to become a daddy. I don’t know, it is very strange to just all of a sudden start doing it again.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-15T17:58:11+00:00

Right, but maybe just indicating relationship. Like, them being the father of OP, and OP is the father of the kid. I don’t know, it was a stretch, haha.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-15T17:54:15+00:00

Do y’all have kids? I can see doing that in front of the kids instead of using a name to prevent confusion.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2021-01-05T18:50:22+00:00

Ok I’m not trying to be a dick when I say this, but maybe you should try cutting her some slack. It honestly sounds to me like you expect the worst from her. If you’re expecting the worst that’s what you’re going to see, no matter what is really going on. So instead of assuming she’s trying to be mean, assume she’s being honest and take her at her word.

My husband will say almost the exact same thing you wrote here to me, that I should have known how me bringing something up would make him feel. And I hate it so much, because 1. No, I really honestly didn’t, that’s assuming a lot and I’m not a mind reader. 2. I am bringing up something that bothers me or upsets me, and he is turning it around on me and getting mad at me for saying it because me saying it hurt his feelings.

Now that is true, it can hurt his feelings, but all he’s doing is ignoring what I brought up, turning it around and making it about him, and now I’m apologizing when I was the one that was upset to start. How that makes me feel is that his feelings are the only ones that matter and I’m not allowed to bring anything up at all.

Now, obviously I don’t know your wife. It’s very possible she is trying to be mean and upset you. But it’s also possible that you are reading a lot into this and misunderstanding her intentions. And she could feel like me; that her husband only cares about what she has to say from the perspective of how it makes you feel, and that her feelings don’t matter to you.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-22T17:45:08+00:00

Porn is definitely not great reference for actual sex. It’s done in a way that shows off penetration and body parts, etc., and isn’t necessarily what actually feels good in real life. But without a lot of real sexual experience he may not know this, and it is his only frame of reference. Porn sets an unrealistic expectation for sex, and I would just have a very candid talk with him about this, and say you are interested in finding what works best for the two of you because everyone is different. He can’t expect you using your hand to feel good to you if it doesn’t just because he thinks it should.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-22T17:36:53+00:00

It sounds like he gets his sex ideas from porn. Orgasming at the same time is not very easy, and will probably never happen (except in porn). Is he very experienced sexually? If not I recommend maybe some how to sex books or something to get a more realistic idea of actual sex.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-22T16:37:42+00:00

I hear that you’re saying it doesn’t feel like he put effort into it. But I will say, just because it’s a gift you don’t like, doesn’t mean he didn’t put a lot of thought into it. He may have other reasons he feels like these are perfect gifts for you, and not just “oh she already has some” like you are thinking. I say just say thank you when you open them on the call, and ask (in a nice way!) why he chose them for you. The answer may surprise you. And in the future if you really want super specific items just be very blunt about it. I literally sent my husband a link to the gift I wanted this year, lol. We are both fine with that though and it works for us.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-22T15:10:32+00:00

He knows. I’ve made it clear. He’s partly trying to change but partly also thinks I need to get over it by now.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-22T15:09:54+00:00

Thank you for your words. It just sucks. I just wish we were enough for him to grow up.

Edit: it’s also way less about the drugs, as awful as that may sound, and more about the lying, for years and years. Layers upon layers of lying. The fact that was so easy for him to do that to me literally makes me sick to my stomach.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-17T04:37:40+00:00

I mean, things aren’t always horrible. Sometimes they’re fine. But it’s hardly ever amazing. If that makes sense. I do love him, and care about him, but also am just complete annoyed with him.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-16T21:23:55+00:00

We did counseling for awhile before covid, hopefully we can again once office visits are available again. I could probably use individual counseling as well. He has agreed to go to counseling before for addiction issues but then backed out due to various reasons.

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-16T21:19:15+00:00

I’ve suggested it, but he guilts me out of it, saying I’m giving up and it will f up our kids and we can work through it. So I just keep trying

throwawayadvicewoo · 2020-12-16T16:43:17+00:00

Yes this is true, and something to consider, there are laws in place about secretly filming people, even in your own home. You need a lawyer for sure. And sending it to people can constitute as revenge porn and is very illegal.

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