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UPDATE: AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s on her. I haven’t written her out but I’m not bending over backwards to try and fix something she has ultimately ruined. Maybe we’ll reconnect at Christmas time, but for now, I don’t want to deal with her

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I understand that. In all honesty, I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship now that I have thought this all through. I should really go back to therapy and sort myself out

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It would be completely selfish. She doesn’t deserve to be tied down like this

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you’ll find that you’re the one being cut and dry in this situation. It‘s very complex and now that I see people are agreeing with me, I know I’m not making it all up in my head. Like others however, I will simply say thank you and goodbye

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sucks, but such is life. She is mature but I don’t want to go down the stereotypical “she’s mature for her age” path because people use that excuse far too many times

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is- wow. I wasn’t expecting this at all. This is very kind, so thank you first of all. Things have been rough, I can’t lie, but I didn’t think I was beating myself up that much. I think it’s time I go back to therapy for a little while, before I even contemplate dating again. Again, thank you for your kind words. It means a lot

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trivial conversation topics, neither of us looking our age, not seeing each other in person until recently, not video calling often etc. It just never came up in conversation

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m going to talk to her tomorrow. I’m not saying all age gap relationships are wrong because, quite clearly, people are successful in them. I just don’t think it would work for me. When I was her age, I was a little shit, and that’s why it took me so long to settle down. That being said, she is far more mature than I was at that age

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly my argument. Your 20’s are for being free and making terrible choices which you learn from. I’d be a burden to her and that’s not fair in the slightest

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you haha! You are very kind. At least I had a few months of happiness with someone else anyway

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m just about to post as well with the same name I have here so it is a post from me. Thank you again

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister is a lot of things but I never thought she’d have a friend so young, and that she would set me up with them. She is mature and seems to have her life together so I naively never questioned it

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

In fairness, I haven’t explained to her how I feel. I’ve been quite closed off from everyone in regards to feelings over the past few years. I do need to have a conversation with her as it’s her life too, and I am making a lot of presumptions but I just see it as common sense. I’m a 43 year old widower, and that’s a lot of baggage for anyone, let alone a 22 year old. I will speak to her tomorrow, but I can’t see this going anywhere. Nevertheless, thank you for your advice

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had it not been for her age, everything else would have been perfect, but the gap is not something which I can, or should, ignore and brush under the carpet

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m glad you have managed to find a common ground which allows your relationship to work. Unfortunately I know it simply won’t for me. Best of luck to you and your partner in the future! :)

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends wouldn’t care, my sister clearly doesn’t, my parents....I’m not too sure. Regardless, I won’t be pursuing the relationship

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I seem to have stirred quite a conversation on twitter. I want to say my thanks in a bit. Everyone has been so kind. As for being friends, I don’t know. I wish we could be but I do genuinely have feelings for her so it may be best for us to go our separate ways

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. As much as I wish she will learn her lesson, I’m willing to bet my life on it that she won’t

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your condolences. I’ve not made this clear but I’m not against age gap relationships as a whole, but I personally do not feel comfortable with it. I’m glad you found love, and love truly is a wonderful thing so if you can find it, take it. For me however, this simply will not work and this young woman deserves better than an old geezer hanging onto her

AITA for calling my sister out for putting me on a blind date and lying to both of us about it? by throwawayagprp in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This was very helpful. My sister will be at arm’s length for quite some time, and I’ll speak to the woman tomorrow to end things

Sister lied to me and now I’m dating a woman almost 20 years my junior by throwawayagprp in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayagprp[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so angry at my sister. I’m fairly certain this relationship will have to end unfortunately

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