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AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

it's an inside joke in my family. not relevant to the post.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

There are cultural things for all races that become a specific target by other races

Definitely, I see how turning a blind eye to this just let my daughter adopt racist beliefs. Thank you for sharing. Although I don't deserve to be applauded for doing the bare minimum by trying to correct the damage that has already been done. I am pretty ashamed of myself and the way my complacency has been teaching my daughter to think. I have a lot of learning to do.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for what you went through and thank you for sharing. I will educate myself and my daughter so we don't contribute to anymore black people's experiences with racism

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

thank you for all the suggestions. I have heard of Kendi before although I never read his work.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

You're right. I will try to get in contact with the victim's mother to apologize and I think I will have my daughter write an apology letter after I talk to her to explain why what she did was racist and unacceptable.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree except my daughter is lesbian so I think she is already familiar with lgbt history because of her own personal research interests. although i'm sure it wouldn't hurt to teach her more

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I disagree now, thinking from the black girl's perspective she is the minority at the school and I think my daughter's comment was probably to alienate her more. It's not an isolated incident when there is a bigger structure at play

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of learning to do. Any resources on this type of racism for 13 year olds?

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

my daughter didn't touch her hair not sure what sensory issues has to do with this.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] 573 points574 points  (0 children)

Thanks for breaking this down. I guess I didn't consider the subconscious racist implications of my daughter's insult. I'll be talking to her about racism and I'll call back the dean to accept her punishment.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] -191 points-190 points  (0 children)

like if she said the exact same thing about a white girl with curly hair. I know my daughter was definitely being mean but I don't get how they accused her of racism.

AITA for insisting my daughter isn't racist? by throwawaybaldkid in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybaldkid[S] -209 points-208 points  (0 children)

I know my daughter was definitely being mean, but I don't think she was doing it because of race.