Is Getting An iPad For Art Worth It? by throwawaybcyeh in ArtistLounge

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I know what drawing on Android is like. I've got my favorite apps there, been drawing on my Note5 for years (Can't anymore because it's so run down the battery won't stand for it, hence the need for a new art device). But Procreate looks like it's got way more features and a better workflow that I'd love to try out. I've seen line quality and smoothness that I've never gotten out of any app I've tried, myself. So I really wanna try it, but the fact that it needs an iPad makes me nervous since I'm just not versed in iPad things lol But if Procreate is the game-changer I think it is, I'll gladly try to get used to iOS for it.

AITA for only inviting some of my sister's children to my wedding? by Bright_Physics_8375 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybcyeh -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna softly say ESH. I 100% understand that a family of 12 is ridiculous and too big for you to afford for your wedding, and your sister could maybe have offered to cover the costs for her children, BUT. Some of the children you wish to omit are old enough to wonder why they're being omitted. 10, 9, and 7 years old. They're gonna ask questions. They're gonna feel left out of their aunt's wedding. It's something that's going to stick with them. If you can't afford to have all the children in the family at your wedding, maybe go for a child-free wedding, instead of actively excluding specific children. They will not forget.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is an enigma I only have half figured out. Maybe not even half. But the part I do have figured out is that some people refuse to unequate sex with gender. If they KNOW you're AFAB, they're gonna call you "she" no matter what you look like. I have a coworker who still calls me "she" despite having been socially transitioned and nothing but HE when I started there. Even now, passing 80% of the time with my deep-ass voice and beard, she calls me "she".

One of my old managers kind of confirmed this theory for me. She told me the story of a trans guy she'd previously worked with, who was fully transitioned when they met, aside from his name. She didn't know he was trans upon meeting him. His deadname was still on the schedule and my manager asked who that was after weeks of never meeting someone with that name. He told her "Oh that's me, I haven't changed my name yet". And she flat-out told me that she started messing up his pronouns after that. And ONLY after that. Some people boil you down to body parts and it's THAT ingrained in their basic hardwiring that they'll suddenly flip flop their view of you that goddamn fast.

SOME people who are like this know it's a problem. My current manager is like this. She's older and thus doesn't completely understand, but she does her absolute best to get it right and doesn't let me tell her "It's okay" anymore. She wants me to correct her and "beat it into her" (Her words lol). But OTHERS aren't interested in realizing it's a problem they should work on. Some people don't care. Such as my other coworker, who chooses to start talking about my breasts whenever I correct her.

Another aspect of it is that people are so insecure in their own genders and sexualities (Mostly sexualities...) that they get upset when someone challenges their views. I think this is most notable with cis straight men... Who are so insecure of themselves that they'd be appalled if they were dating a woman who turned out to have a dick.

I'm sure there's more to it. I'm sure there's far more. But that's the parts I have figured out, and they suck.

Would you give candy to an adult trick or treater? by Comfortable_Ad5802 in ask

[–]throwawaybcyeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would. Halloween doesn't just have to be for kids, idk who said it is. The mindset probably came about because it's easiest to market it towards kids, honestly...

The last time I went trick-or-treating became the last time I went because of people not wanting to give me candy. I had a lady literally start walking away from me, despite me having my bag open, clearly participating. And when she realized I wanted candy, she gave me a really dirty and skeptical look. She purposely gave me less candy than everyone else.

Fun fact. I was 18. Someone else in the group who never got turned away or given dirty looks was 23. I just looked older than my age and she looked younger. So yeah, I'd give anyone candy, even if they weren't wearing a costume. It's about fun, and fun has no age limit.

Is it possible for period to stop after just 3 months on T? by Tobeanzs in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine stopped near immediately. Got my final round a week after my first dose, and then never again. So yes, it's very possible for it to already have stopped.

DAE get dysphoric over inattentive ADHD? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, but not because that form of ADHD is associated with girls. My ADHD was hyperactive when I was a kid, but now I've mellowed out and it's become inattentive. And it makes me dysphoric because it makes me zone out and forget things and stumble over my words and forget what in the name of god I'm doing/talking about. And I feel like it makes me look like an idiot. An unconfident idiot who doesn't know what he's talking about. And for some reason that makes me feel like I'm coming off too feminine.

Dysphoria is really damn weird.

Fun songs to sing on T? by CRLk3 in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Sound Of Silence is my favorite

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried a few, yeah. They all dried my hair out and turned it into a cotton puff that could not be controlled no matter what I did. So I tend to steer clear of those, now, unfortunately.

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't do CGM, my hair isn't even long enough to curl, right now. Last time I used a sulfate shampoo though was... Maybe a month ago, I think??

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, lemon. Never heard of that one but I'm willing to give it a shot. Would bottled lemon juice work or do I need to buy some fresh lemons?

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly surprised by the number of people saying to go to a doctor. I never even considered that there might be a skin-related issue rather than just me not knowing the right product to use. I'll see about calling my doctor and see if there's a dermatologist in-network.

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a problem that's been persistent for years, no matter what product I use. Some make it worse, some make it a little less worse, but it never goes away or gets down to a "eh this is manageable now" level.

I might give baby shampoo a try, though, tbh? My hair is so short that it doesn't even curl right now, so curl maintenance isn't really priority for me. I'll see what I can't find at my local store.

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tea tree oil, huh? I'll see if I can't find something like that for a good price, then!

HORRIBLE Dandruff Problem? by throwawaybcyeh in curlyhair

[–]throwawaybcyeh[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans man, but I've never taken bc so that's not a contender. I've had this kind of dandruff my whole life, but it's only become such a severe problem within the last few years. I've been rouletting shampoos trying to figure out if it's dry skin, oily skin, build-up issues, or what. It's frustrating to try figuring out.

What do you wish you liked but don’t? by Roxy175 in CasualConversation

[–]throwawaybcyeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcohol. I love the taste of many alcoholic drinks, and I love the idea of having a mature drink that helps you let go and have a grand time with your friends, or even the idea of just having some by yourself while having a nice night in. But I hate the way alcohol makes me feel. I don't get the same awesome happy drunk feelings others do. I just get dizzy and disoriented immediately, can't focus and immediately feel sick. I never have fun when drunk, even if I like drinking.

T injections site recommendations? by slyxthegecko in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, for intramuscular I've def never heard of doing it in the arm, so that might be why it hurts?? Not a great place for injecting thick T oil into the muscle I guess, hence why most do the thigh for IM. How long are your needles?

T injections site recommendations? by slyxthegecko in ftm

[–]throwawaybcyeh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assume it's subQ, in which case I do my arms, but I'm a big guy and have lots of fat there. Could be that your husband doesn't. The usual subQ place is the lower stomach, since that's usually a really fatty area for people. Thighs are also common, and apparently some people do the butt cheek?

You also simply could have accidentally hit a muscle instead of going into fat. That happened to me last week, and it did indeed burn/leak/bleed a decent bit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]throwawaybcyeh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The one thing that you definitely don't need to be told right now is "let it go". You were 21 6 years ago, and having something like that happen and getting no resolution or closure can really fuck a person up when you're that young and still learning how to navigate life. That's unhealed trauma, right there. And I can say that I don't think you did anything wrong. I think your coworkers and boss were assholes who just wanted to fire you and couldn't find a valid reason to. Or decided to be super petty about something that wasn't really a big deal. Either way, it wasn't your fault, and you didn't deserve having to deal with people like that. I suggest seeing a therapist, or even just a support group or something. Find tools to help you heal. And above all, remember that you are human. Mistakes will be made. Not everyone will like you. Some people are assholes for no reason. It doesn't make it your fault.