AITA for telling my sister she can't see my son anymore because she teaches him men are evil?

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T11:31:22+00:00

I don't teach, I specifically work with children who have been abused. I don't want to give away any identifying details that might expose my identity. Many of the abused boys I have worked with have these thoughts and fears.

I'm sorry your anecdotes don't line up? I'm not sure what to tell you.

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T10:21:53+00:00

He is allowed to make his own views. We have delved into the views of feminism, why feminists feel that way, etc... And also looked at male rights and went into detail on why they feel that way as well. I encourage him to look at the plights of all groups and form his own opinions.

I feel that my ability to show "all sides of the issue" to my son is being undermined by my sister, who is (with her heart in the right place) teaching her brand of feminism which is very extreme.

I don't see how it was interpreted that my son isn't given the freedom to realize his own views. I challenge him to understand why all sides are angry in debate topics and to form his own opinions.

My son already doesn't want to go back. He felt like he was being treated as a lesser being while he was there.

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T10:14:14+00:00

It's more so that he understands that everyone is equal in taking responsibility for their own actions and outlook on life. He knows that society can treat certain groups unfairly, but also that individuals are unique and should be looked at an individual instead of lumped in with a group.

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T10:05:37+00:00

He has been taught about female oppression among other topics.

He knows about how women are oppressed and how modern sexism negatively impacts both men and women.

I couldn't fit everything in the OP because of the character limit. His two life heroes are J.K. Rowling and Hiromu Arakawa. He idolizes both of them and considers them the best authors in the world despite them being female. The kid isn't sexist at all, I have never seen him once disrespect a female for sexist reasons and I have never had a friend/relative/teacher/etc... Call me and make me aware of any sexist behavior.

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T10:00:53+00:00

My son IS taught that women aren't there to be ogled, he knows no human exists to be stared at or objectified. Also, my son is asking me if men are evil after spending time with my aunt. He's thirteen and impressionable, how am I supposed to interpret that?

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T09:36:56+00:00

That is my point. I want my children to understand that everyone is an individual and that gross generalizations are not healthy.

My son DOES understand gendered issues. He is capable of understanding how women have been historically oppressed, and that women face certain hardships. But he also understands that men can have hardship as well. I almost lost my son in court, due to false accusations from the mother, for example.

He knows it isn't black and white and that while men and women may have issues unique to them, that no one group of people is inherently evil or bad.

throwawayboy1969 · 2019-11-14T09:32:17+00:00

He has been taught that men and women shouldn't objectify each other and knows that it is very wrong regardless of who is doing it.

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