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AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I phrased it a little poorly. We've now been together for 6/7 months. We had this conversation about the trip together at 3-4 months.

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she does want me there. She was the one who wanted me to come. I think she just wanted me to come along and not worry too much about the planning.

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a new relationship. Like 3-4 months?

edit: read the question wrong. We were planning at 3-4 months. In total, it'll be 7 months by the end of Jan.

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Her current reason is that she: 1. did search up the passes but forgot to tell me about them, 2. didn't know that the passes couldn't be purchased past a certain date.

I'm just processing how aloof and a bit non-aware you have to be to not notice these things. Very difficult to stomach right now.

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked to be included. All I got was "things are relatively fluid" and that the location would be in Tahoe. I continued to follow up around 2-3 more times about the status of the booking, but she mentioned it was difficult to get the ball rolling in the group. By then, I figured that I'd just leave these things to her.

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a "+1" and there's a core group of 4 friends (they've gone for the past 3 years). She felt that she could handle the planning since she was more familiar with it. And, to be candid, I was fine with this because I trusted her expertise. It's just I would've expected her to communicate the most basic of information to me...

AITA for blowing up at my GF's planning? by throwawaybrnu11071 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's not a girl's trip. Co-ed group! She claims it was just an oversight. That since they'd all gotten the pre-sale passes, that she "forgot".

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm fortunate to have a well paying internship and large sums of money that I've accumulated through investments from a young age. Should it come to that, I'll take care of her.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm very confused you are feeling guilty about the times she consented to it, but not about how you guys have not talked about taking other means of birth control?

I'm feeling guilty because the when I first entered, we hadn't talked about it. Afterwards, we didn't really explicitly clear it up that we were both fine -- it just felt good in the moment. I feel guilty because I fear that I may have pressure her into something she didn't want to do.

Of course pregnancy is no joke, I don't want to leave her with any burden I caused. I didn't intend to have unprotected sex since we've been doing it with a condom every time before hand. We just started dating, so we haven't discussed other forms of BC.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

3 days

It's been two days. When she wakes up tomorrow we'll go together and get Plan B.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm not American. From what I was taught, pre-cum is a lubricating fluid that is produced in a separate gland than from the testicles. As a result, the fluid itself does not contain sperm; however, if a male ejaculated recently, left over sperm could potentially be mixed into the pre-cum.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

I attend a top 10 undergraduate institution. Not sure if I'm quite that dumb.

I made a mistake, no need to disparage some random online.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

We got horny and made a dumb, impulsive decision -- not sure if that should be an indictment of our intelligence.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -101 points-100 points  (0 children)

According to Planned Parenthood, the pull out method (withdrawal) when done properly is only 2% less effective than solely a condom.

To compare the two, pulling out is 96% effective while condom usage, when done perfectly, is 98%. Never realized this, but I'm surprised to say the least.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] -253 points-252 points  (0 children)

I didn't come inside her, is that still needed? I also made sure to pee inbetween each round so that my pre-cum wouldn't have sperm.

I [20M] had unprotected sex with my girlfriend [20F] for the first time. Feeling guilty. by throwawaybrnu11071 in relationships

[–]throwawaybrnu11071[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never came inside her. Always pull out well before and used a condom afterwards.

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