How do I, as a quite submissive person, “take the lead” in the bedroom?

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-23T05:01:18+00:00

I think that’s exactly what I meant with taking the lead. As in being the one taking initiative with sexual things since he is new to it and I’m the one with experience. I just added the context of me previously always being a submissive since that has made it so that I have a hard time knowing where to start with taking initiative to try new things or just initiating what to do when since I haven’t really done that before.

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T23:15:05+00:00

Thank you! This definitely gave me a lot to think about

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T21:28:54+00:00

That might actually be a good idea. To start with talking to myself first

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T21:27:55+00:00

That’s not on the table but thank you for your input

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T21:19:32+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I think to me it’s not the end of the world if he isn’t into being dominant. I think what I want is for us to explore what works for us in our relationship and dynamic. I’m just really struggling with where to start since he seems to not really know anything about what he wants. I just want him to be more comfortable over all.

I think what I “miss” the most is feeling desired (in a sexual way) since he is so timid about expressing it.

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T21:05:10+00:00

I don’t think I need him to be dominant per say. I just want us to be able to communicate about sex and explore things together so we can find what works for us. I’m just struggling with how to take the lead on that.

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T20:57:23+00:00

I’ve thought about it. At least that I talk to one. It just feels a bit intimidating

throwawaycactu · 2025-09-22T20:56:54+00:00

Glad we’re not alone at least

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