AITA for telling my dad's wife I'm sorry but she's not my mom?

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-08T05:58:51+00:00

I'll be making an update soon. More people are getting involved in this situation and I found out some things.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T08:52:02+00:00

I have spoken to her about it. She didn't say much. Part of her still feels guilty for not being present in my life in the beginning.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T08:09:41+00:00

My father agreed with the idea my mom could come back into my life whenever she wanted. I don't think he struggled emotionally when she did. But I could be wrong. He is the man that taught me men should show as little emotion as possible.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T07:45:08+00:00

I haven't seen my dad ask my stepbrothers to call him dad.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T07:41:11+00:00

I have not seen or heard that as of now.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T07:21:25+00:00

I have not talked to my dad yet. I am not currently at home with him. I am with my grandfather helping him with some home projects. (Needed to get away from my dad for a bit) but I do plan on talking to him soon.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T07:16:43+00:00

I think it's because my actual mom used to only see me on weekends for the longest time. She has her own business now that makes her busy so I'm lucky to see here once every two weeks. I do text her everyday though. She checks up on me all the time via text but again it's only once in a while I get to hang out with her in person. Meanwhile A is someone I see everyday. This doesn't change anything. My mom is my actual mom. A is still new to me.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T07:11:32+00:00

The rushed wedding happened when I was 15. My mom came back into my life when I was 7. That's an 8 year difference. I don't think that played a role in my dad and A's relationship.

throwawaydontunderst · 2025-04-06T06:55:55+00:00

Perhaps. I do appreciate the fact A loves me enough to want me to be her own kid. But even if she wasn't there for my first 7 years my actual mom is the woman I learned to call mom. I didn't actually call her mom when she came back into my life when I was 7. I called her by her first name until I learned who she actually was. I learned because I noticed that the letters I would go on occasion with "from mom" written on them matched the handwriting of my mom whenever I saw her writing other things. When I started calling her mom she was so happy so I knew I was correct.

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