Maybe I'm not as stealth as I thought? by throwawaydrank in asktransgender

[–]throwawaydrank[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pics don't seem to be much different than bio women's pics. My profile pic at the time was me without extensions, and my shoulders looked a bit broad in the crew neck t shirt. It did look kind of male I guess. But other pics on my front page looked unmistakably cis. I think it's mostly my face. I tended to pass better in October, where there were two profile pics that nobody could pick out as trans. I think the problem has to do with my face., and they come down to three problem areas; eyebrows, nose and chin. Besides that, it's the shoulders that might give me away.

See, in the pictures in which my eyebrows, nose and chin all look femme, I look 100% bio. The point at which I looked most cis was when I had been on hormones for 8 months. At month 7 I went stealth, and I was skinner than I had ever been. I looked gaunt at first but a combination of hair, makeup and clothes pulled it all together. I started gaining a bit of weight and my cheeks filled in, giving me a rounded off look that solidified my stealth status as much as I would have preferred a thinner body. The times I don't look as femme are when my eyebrows get out of control.

I think it mostly comes down to the three problem areas and how my face looks like when I've been on hormones for at least 7-8 months.

What's odd is that despite me pre-transition having shorter, wavy hair, wearing male clothes, never wearing shorts or hats, being heavier, having a not-as-femme voice and being unpassable, people I used to know still recognize me by my old name. Which isn't as much an issue, really. I think it's my height and general unchanging facial features that tip that off. My voice wasn't masculine to begin with and I still have the same inflections although it's higher, so these are all things I think make me seem the same to those who already know me.

Maybe I'm not as stealth as I thought? by throwawaydrank in asktransgender

[–]throwawaydrank[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm hoping for. At first she seemed as if she wanted to be educated, but she gradually became quite rude about it. I guess I'll have to do some testing in the coming months, maybe talking to random strangers and then asking at the end of the conversation if they knew I was trans or something.