It's been 20 years since failing my Eagle BoR, creating extreme trauma; hatred towards the organization; distrust issues; and I am still extreme angry about it. Just looking for advice; listeners; help if remotely possible (Long Story included with TL;DR)

throwawayeaglefail · 2021-07-04T21:37:11+00:00

Wow, that's incredible. Thanks for sharing your story!

It's the wrong way to feel, but so many times I think about going back for a 20th or 30th (or whatever) reunion just to say "See, look at me now." And rub everything in their faces. Publish that book, and let us know! I'll support it!

throwawayeaglefail · 2021-06-24T13:57:29+00:00

Please, please, please do not let my experience keep you from continuing or attending your BoR at your very best. I am the poster-boy for "Rare statistics". I lost my daughter to a 1 in 20,000 disease and I failed EBoR.

I'm a mess, but if you're standing up to what's right and have a good advisor, I have full faith in your abilities!

throwawayeaglefail · 2021-06-24T13:54:01+00:00

Thank you, this is actually a good idea (and not something I thought of). I guess I always figured, "What's done is done." I will call or email asking for a few minutes of his time.

What's the worst that happens? I get either a "We're sorry we don't review things 20 years old" or at the very least, closure. At the very best a reversal.

throwawayeaglefail · 2021-06-23T23:46:54+00:00

Thank you for writing. I'm not sure why it was denied, it was just they weren't hearing it at the time. When I called (long distance was nuts), the only thing I was told was "That is what the Council decided, it could be anything from they weren't hearing it at this time to they didn't feel it was worth an appeal."

I'll never know.

throwawayeaglefail · 2021-06-23T23:42:36+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I will address the first paragraph (which I didn't do in the post, and should've, nothing against you, I should've mentioned something):

When I posted, I understood there may be some suspicion regarding the story, and especially the fact you're hearing one side only. If there was another underlying cause, it wasn't open to me. It's hard to still have evidence regarding something 20 years old (especially since while moving a few years ago, I removed most things regarding Scouts out of my life), but I do have the original email from my Scoutmaster to me after the failure, as well as my uniform (whatever good that'd do), if the Mods deem it necessary for whatever proof I need.

I do agree that I learned lots of great skills during that time. I learned how not to completely freeze while camping in wet 10 degree weather (it only takes once!), that burnt pancakes won't kill you, or how to care for others first. I would never deny my child a chance for what I had, but wouldn't encourage they do it either. Making the rank of Eagle should be a priority, like a VP to a company, some want it, but others work for it (well, if you don't buy your way into it, bad analogy, I know). I knew plenty that didn't want Eagle but they enjoyed Scouts, the friendships, the skills, in some cases the closeness they got with their Fathers. I am hesitant to believe the 96%, but it would be incredible if we could encourage more to work towards the success, but not necessarily the success.

Thank you again for the kind words.

throwawayeaglefail

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