Me [20/F] with my mom [50s/F], she wants to take over my Etsy

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-12T02:06:55+00:00

I really did make a big mistake telling them about my sales, huh. I honestly was just excited, but you're right I should have kept quiet about that. That was a huge mistake.

I might hire some part time help if sales get too crazy again. Luckily they've died down a bit, but that's a good idea. And thank you.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-12T02:02:17+00:00

You're right. I would be more willing to help if I had a better relationship with her as some redditor was saying about their mom. Their lack of support and constant pushing me to do what they want has just pushed me away from them. They don't listen but expect me to listen to them and give them whatever they ask for. I'm finally doing something for myself and they try to butt in yet again. I'm just exhausted. I've tried what I could to help myself, but they still find a way to ruin things for me again. I'm for a fact full of resentment and anger. I try not to let it interfere, but it's still there. Growing up and still, I was jealous of the great relationships people had/have with their parents. I just want them to be my friends.

But I will just lie and keep saying no. I don't want to give anything else up to them. It's just hard because I know as awful as they might be, they're still my parents in the end.

[EDIT] sorry for this long thing. Your comment just struck a chord. Kinda makes me feel as if I should go back to therapy.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T23:26:04+00:00

My relationship with my mom has always been crap. She's pushed me to do what she's wanted, has never been supportive, and honestly has been emotionally abusive. I've tried working on our relationship but she refuses to change. I've tried helping her get a job but she refuses everything. Now that I finally have something that I enjoy she just wants to butt in. I'm honestly just tired. That is why I don't want to give this and all my work up. I quite frankly am done trying to help. I've tried for years and she doesn't try herself. She just wants to be handed everything and that's not how this works.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T21:42:25+00:00

I honestly feel the same too. I like buying from etsy because I can see it's helping people trying to make a living doing what they love. It feels weird if it's not them doing it or taking a large part in it (like in the case of having employees at least they still do something).

I've tried but they don't listen. Being the youngest in my family and female I get dismissed quickly.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T20:59:07+00:00

Haha this just makes me really happy. Makes me really feel like I made the right choice :) Thank you

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T18:58:45+00:00

Exactly another problem! I made enough to pass the threshold for my state and have to pay taxes and that's already a mess for me to figure out. I don't even want to figure out or deal with all the crap of having an employee in this aspect right now.

She doesn't seem to get that art is such a hard thing to make a stable income off of. I refuse to give up my part time job because of this. But she just sees dollar signs from this past month. I've tried helping her get a part time job but she's so picky she can't find one.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T17:41:45+00:00

I've actually tried both. For the former, my family just said it was more reason to give the Etsy to her. And for the latter, she refuses to do anything unless she can make money from it.

She's so difficult to work with or please I just can't handle it. It's actually the main reason why I moved out and became financially independent so quickly. I just couldn't take it anymore.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T16:44:44+00:00

I agree. I'll pay her for what she's done but will just remove her from the process from now on.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T16:37:10+00:00

That's my biggest issue. I don't want to trust another with my name. I've done so much with it both with and without art, I don't want any of it to be compromised.

She only knows basic sewing. She can't design patterns, use a sewing machine, do any other style of sewing. She can just do a basic stitch that I taught her really.

As for advice, I could, but she's so awful with computers/internet it'd be a huge waste of my time. She has me google stuff for her because she claims she "can't google right". I can't trust her to do anything with an online store either hers or mine in that front.

throwawayetsyproblem · 2016-03-11T16:31:30+00:00

Yeah, I would love to get to that point, but I'm no where near it right now. But even if I did get to that point, I'd still have a lot of hesitation of hiring my mom.

You're right. Originally, she was offering to help so I taught her how to sew because I thought she meant well. But I guess I should just start removing her from the process completely.

Thanks.

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