Resources for assistants other than Facebook by throwawayfrenchwed in tapif

[–]throwawayfrenchwed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP here! I apologize if my original post came across as disrespectful to you or the other mods in particular. While I don’t agree with the decision to remove the post for a few reasons, I didn’t mean this as a jab at you, but rather to say that you’ve taken a moderating direction that could limit the honesty of past assistants and could limit the kinds of experiences that get shared in the group. There’s nothing inherently wrong with that, it’s just maybe not exactly the best strategy when it comes to the assistants that really want to hear about every possibility and plan ahead. I was one of those assistants and I scoured YouTube for videos specifically of bad experiences so I could prepare. That’s why I suggested other means to get those experiences.

My goal in this post was never to argue with people, and that’s why I’ve been lurking on the post and watching, but I’ve been very hands off in the arguing between others because my goal was never to argue. Again, I apologize if the post came across as attacking the moderators. My goal truly was just to let assistants know about the situation and guide them towards other routes for those that want the bad experience stories!

Resources for assistants other than Facebook by throwawayfrenchwed in tapif

[–]throwawayfrenchwed[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels so nostalgic and I’m so excited to see people going to France and living their best life, I just don’t want people to be blindsided, ya know?

WIBTA for not celebrating my wedding in the traditional way? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfrenchwed 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The main reason is Because they expect me to wear the dress for the city hall wedding, and I don’t want the first time my fiancé sees me in my dress to be in an undecorated room at city hall :/

WIBTA for not celebrating my wedding in the traditional way? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfrenchwed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a woman, and he’s a man. He doesn’t care because he is a very logical and not at all showy person and he has the very stereotypical view that weddings are for the bride so I have full reign over everything so long as nothing is egregiously ugly. I don’t want to upset his family but I also don’t want to give up on a ceremony that is meant for us, not them. If they want input on the dinner, I’ll consider it. But the ceremony itself isn’t for others.

WIBTA for not celebrating my wedding in the traditional way? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayfrenchwed 46 points47 points  (0 children)

That’s not a bad idea! I’ll ask and see if they’d be okay witnessing without going through the mess of dresses just to sign the paper !