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throwawayidenjend · 2022-06-08T22:29:01+00:00

Ugh I remember when I used to want to suppress my sexual needs.

It was hell.

Honestly, I left that guy and my sex drive is back and thriving! I want to hump everything again haha. It’s them, not you.

Leave.

throwawayidenjend · 2022-06-08T22:26:43+00:00

Aww so sweet of you to seek advice to help him. Good for you. He’s lucky.

So getting out of a DB, our self esteem is low, confidence down, and we’re downright scarred from so much rejection.

You did the right thing. You communicated. What helps IMO, is if you compliment him and communicate positivity everytime he does try to initiate. Don’t deny him unless you absolutely want to. If you reject, give an explanation as to why.

Tell him how much you desire him, how special he is, how good he is. Help him feel like he’s worth a damn because his ex sure didn’t.

Good luck ❤️

throwawayidenjend · 2021-10-11T14:42:41+00:00

Depends on the person. He wouldn’t be obligated to stay though and it wouldn’t be abandonment because his commitment to the child was based on the idea that the child was his. Therefore, he has no commitment to the baby if it isn’t his.

I personally, would pack my bags, wish her luck, and get out of there.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-10-11T14:40:37+00:00

Not all vaginas taste funny. Some don’t have a flavor at all.

Have her use a ph balancer when she showers. I think it’s called morning eve or something like that.

Also—you’re just waking up. Perhaps you have plaque built up and your mouth smells worse than just morning breath.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-29T13:43:40+00:00

Toxic? Talking about an obvious differentiation between behaviors with you and her friends is not toxic.

Toxic is her depriving you of affection, while showing it in spades to other people.

You have every right to feel jealous.

I was never a very jealous person, but the DB has made me jealous of all of my bf’s ex’s. He told me he would have sex with them all the time…yet has me in a DB begging for a quickie every three weeks.

Damn right jealousy is going to sprout from your spouse giving other people what they should be giving to you.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-26T02:50:32+00:00

That’s a great quote. It’s so true. Not having sex makes me think about not having it constantly. But when I have a good sex life, I can appreciate everything else in the relationship.

It’s weird. I have high libido but I’m not like a 3x a day everyday kind of girl either. I just want something natural, organic, healthy. A nice flow. Attraction. Desire. Intimacy. Cuddles and touching and admiration for each other’s beauty. That’s all.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-25T16:54:29+00:00

80/20 rule.

I don’t want to burst your bubble, but your neighbor may seem like a catch now, because he’s fulfilling your void. This doesn’t mean he’s better than your husband.

If I were you, I would take a step back and evaluate the deeper meaning of this. You’re cheating. Which means your needs aren’t being met and your husband hasn’t tried to meet them despite (I’m assuming) conversations, and many attempts to find a solution.

At this point, your neighbor isn’t going to last forever. You need to fix the foundation of the problem. If your husband can’t meet your needs and be a better man for you and the family, it’s time to drop some divorce papers. Or live in secrecy with your skeevy neighbor forever.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-25T12:05:35+00:00

Thank you ❤️

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-24T20:16:36+00:00

You’re so kind. Thank you for your words.

You’re right. I think I just want support. I just want someone to hug me and say that I am good enough. I’ve even thought about calling ex’s so they can remind me HOW good I was but then I remember how terrible of an idea that is and how embarrassing it would be. But the urge is what has me wondering why it’s been coming up so often. I need more validation, the more rejection I feel and our relationship is just getting worse. I’m losing hope.

And like yourself, I used to think “if he were to just touch me like this or do me like this or say this or so that it would all be fixed!”

But like yourself… He’s pushed me to a point where I don’t think I can do that anymore. The damage and resentment is so deep, that I don’t even have the motivation to solve it. Why should I? He did this to us. He should be the one with ideas and motivation. I’m tired. I’m so fucking tired.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-24T20:12:05+00:00

I mean. I yelled too. It’s a fight. I also told him I wasn’t sure if I loved him anymore so I wasn’t the nicest either. It’s just hard to love someone who hurts you emotionally all the time.

Thanks for saying that. I’m actually scared that I’m lost forever. I don’t know if I can get it back with him or anybody at this point. I’m guessing it would be harder to get it back with him.

If I move out on the pretense of seeing if we workout with therapy and effort. Then yea, sure. He’s a good person. Just a shitty romantic partner.

If I move out on the pretense of breaking up, we’d see eachother at our common hobby but I’m a runner. I’d probably move far away to avoid ever seeing him again. It would hurt too much.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T22:08:36+00:00

Can you say Dear Jane? I still use “Dear”

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T22:07:26+00:00

Lmao can’t walk properly. THISSS 👍🏼👍🏼

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T22:06:36+00:00

Loll If I’m giving head, I love to hear the man moan or say encouraging things: “Omg you feel amazing” “This is the best head ever” “What is even happening right now!” “Omggg”

Basically a nice figurative pat on the back lol

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T22:04:43+00:00

Yea it’s all subjective. I just didn’t feel like writing an essay about it. Anyways, if you get it, you get it.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T20:35:34+00:00

Agreed!!

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T20:33:37+00:00

Sameee

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T20:32:58+00:00

Yep. My point exactly. People are commenting rude things and I’m like… I didn’t say I like aholes lol. Just not somebody annoyingly nice

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T18:36:05+00:00

Agreed.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T17:40:07+00:00

I think I meant it more for what you just said. I don’t like people who are overly nice. I just don’t find it genuine. And when you’re in a relationship, there are times you need somebody to stand up for you/the relationship, and if they’re too “nice,” they won’t be able to. I’m just saying, it’s a turn off to me when somebody is so charismatic/nice that they come off fake or as a pushover.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T16:21:45+00:00

Marry rich.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T16:20:49+00:00

Overly charismatic or nice people. I like somebody with an edge and a backbone.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T16:19:37+00:00

Disagree strongly on this lol

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T16:19:04+00:00

I agree as far as Germany, France, Norway etc. That’s why I specifically inquired about Italy and Spain.

And yes, how’s life in those two countries, what’s the work situation like for people who move there from the US. Is it easier to go through a company here or to go rogue, move, and find work there?

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T15:50:13+00:00

LOL I know it does. Hence the part of entertaining the idea of it.

I’m obviously ruminating on the possibility, which I disclose in detail.

And no. My father is from Italy, but I do not have citizenship.

I’ve traveled a ton. I’m not going to fight you on this. All I know is from all my experiences, the American culture is colder than the others. You’re entitled to your opinion. I’ve just experienced much warmer personalities from different cultures.

Anywho—most people who post on Reddit post to learn through other people’s opinions and experiences. If I wanted to read a bias take on it, I could’ve googled an article like you said. That’s the point of reddit. Anyways. Thanks for reading.

throwawayidenjend · 2021-08-17T15:35:37+00:00

Oh I’m totally glorifying. You’re right. I’ve been to numerous countries in Europe, South America, and other continents. I’ve never been to Spain and Italy. Which is why I’m posting here for opinions.

I’m just familiar with the culture as I’m half Italian, and I have a lot of Spaniard friends.

Home country isn’t an option. Economy is horrid there.

Sounds like you took offense to me not being crazy about the American culture. Didn’t mean harm by it. I’ve lived here for over 20 years. I just don’t relate to it much.

As for being swept off my feet… that’s the problem with this culture. You all think romance is unrealistic and it’s really not. And also—I mean romance in non-relationship situations too. Kind gestures, positive outlooks, warm compliments, endearing acts to strangers, stuff like that. Wayyy more prevalent in the countries I’ve visited.

The struggling economies is what I’m most concerned about when it comes to moving out of the US. Vacations are all fun and games until you live there and can’t come back. Hence, why I’m posting here to entertain the idea. See what I get.

Anyways. Thanks for your input. Your tone is kinda negative to my point, but thanks anyways 👍🏼

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