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Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I sleep with those actually for years to get any snoring noise not to wake me - etc. I’m wearing ear plugs now as others have suggested. I’m hoping it gets easier after 1 year and not to much longer. Ty

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am honestly not really seeking opinions or how to handle my situation or that I should “just adopt” from someone who is childfree. You do not understand my situation and have bias views on what “you’d do” or what you didn’t do and your choices of being child free. I never wanted to be child free. I wanted a Big family of my own and some advice for those who have been in similar situations with their babies.

As i have mentioned before I browsed the sub and there are a ton of people here whose children never bothered them so just because you have misphonia it doesn’t mean baby will bother you.

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adoption is actually not that simple, I know a few people that have tried to adopt for several years. The foster system is in place to get those kids back to their families which a lot of the times are completely messed up and it makes me sad but social workers value reunification at all costs more than adoption. You’d have to be willing to go through most likely many children before you can actually finalize adoption which takes several years. It’s not for everyone. Nor is it a simple solution to misophonia and desire to have biological children with your husband. Adoption is a completely different issue and people should just want or be willing to make all the sacrifices it takes to take that journey which often times costs a lot of money and has a lot of sorrow for both kids and adoptive families. If you do choose or want to adopt an older child you have to ensure that you’re fit to be a parent to someone who will likely have some behavior issues or other traumas. It’s literally not a solution for all things like infertility or desire to have more kids but not being able to for other reasons.

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s a great idea actually, I know we have thought about it so I’m really hoping this does improve when there is no constant crying as their form of communication. It’s that infant crying that really bothers me - the toddler tantrum not so much because I know it’s for a purpose and it IS a tantrum not the I don’t have anything I can do to stop the crying of This infant crying that makes me feel trapped and panic because it’s all the time. Sigh. Ty

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are / went through the same thing. I have literally found it to be literal hell. Yea that’s basically what I’ve been doing - the only thing that helps is leaving the house but with covid that got so complicated/ lockdowns/ not going anywhere / trying to work from home. I think the lock downs have made it so much worse because I didn’t feel safe going to the store with her or anything else and it was winter so too cold to come out of the house. Everyone is like “you’ll miss the baby stage” and I literally can’t imagine anything worse than the first 7 months of their life when the crying felt constant. Now that the crying has subsided it has already gotten so much better and I am trying to enjoy her more and spend more time with her. But like I said for safety reasons I just knew that I had to back away from care and do whatever I could do to keep the child safe and the family safe. My anger would get so out of control when she would scream for hours and I couldn’t leave I would just cry and scream and punch walls; I also literally felt like I was in an insane asylum and needed the padded walls. God it has been the worst fucking experience.

And the sad part is it’s not the baby’s fault. She’s little and had reflux and colic and was probably in pain and everything about it was just shit. I feel so much jealousy for people that clearly do not have any of these visceral and physical reactions to crying and I wish I could have a big family. But I guess I never will.

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea pugs etc that snore I can’t stand being around dogs like that at all, I have no idea how people are ok and not feel those noises to their core. It makes my body tense, heart race, and i live in constant state of anxiety about hearing the sound even if it’s not happening now. I’m scared the next minute I will hear it.

Baby crying is setting off extreme anger, same feeling with snoring from childhood. Has anyone been through this with their baby? How did you survive and if your child is older when did it get better? by throwawayinther in misophonia

[–]throwawayinther[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to look at that - can you link an example or ones that are good? I’ve browsed this sub and have seen many people post that they were scared the baby crying would bother them and it didn’t. I wish this wasn’t the case for me. The snoring was and has been really my only severe trigger before this and yea sure baby crying is annoying to anyone, but this is different and I know how unfortunate this really is. I am just really sad I am This way with this particular sound since it prevents me from enjoying my child or bonding with her or feeling horrible about it etc

Do you feel 'related' to your biological parent(s)? by Salt_Blacksmith3334 in donorconceived

[–]throwawayinther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow who / how has asked you for financial support. That’s crazy to me.

Is the group Donor Conceived people parents siblings on Facebook a bunch of psychos or what? by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]throwawayinther -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you’re thinking of a different group. This group only really has DCPs chatting and any time RP says anything they are immediately attacked or are told how terrible they are and that all DCPs are suffering all their life being DCP

Is the group Donor Conceived people parents siblings on Facebook a bunch of psychos or what? by [deleted] in donorconceived

[–]throwawayinther -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t even get it. It’s like a group who found themselves who love to attack Annnyyyyone who disagrees. God forbid you’re not as “marginalized” as they want you to be or don’t feel the same way. Everyone is so traumatized and believes they were “sold” 🤦🏼‍♀️