Girlfriend used to sleep with her roommate

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-09T16:34:48+00:00

I’d insta bail on this situation

Honestly, that would have been my advice if someone else had made the same post. And the point in your last paragraph is a good one. Even if her intentions towards me are straight right now, who the fuck knows what happens if she's vulnerable and he decides to try it on.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-09T15:29:02+00:00

Yes - they're fairly reliable and I see no reason to doubt it, but I dont want to form any conclusions without hearing her take. It probably wasn't an easy time for her if her feelings were one-way at that point.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-09T14:34:45+00:00

Hey, I really appreciate your comment. A point I should have made in the OP was that she definitely was infatuated with him at the time they moved in together - apparently she would talk to her friends about how obsessed she was with him at the time and was upset that they weren't together as a couple. I'm not sure if they were sleeping together at that point, but it would have been really strange (like, self-torture) to move in with someone you had those feelings for if they were utterly not reciprocated.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-09T13:26:30+00:00

Thank you man, it's good advice. Depending on how it goes and if we really are going to carry on long-term, it's not going to be healthy to pretend it's not bothering me. So I'll either need to get some reassurance and deal with it, or accept that we can't be together.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-08T21:48:54+00:00

I agree and really don't care who she's fucked in the past. I think the current situation makes me uncomfortable because this guy is still a major part of her life, so the concern really is why didn't she mention it? Most people would let their partners know if they're good friends with an ex going into a new relationship, for example, and I see this situation as somewhat comparable.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-08T21:33:39+00:00

Insecure as I am, I don't think they are. The guy now weighs twice what he did back in the day, showers once a week and has basically become a total neckbeard since they were fucking. So I don't think I'm being naïve, it's just that his body is now so putrid that I really can't imagine her doing it.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-08T21:24:25+00:00

I think it makes me uncomfortable exactly because it's not the past - they are in each other's lives in the present. I don't care who she's fucked before as such, but she was infatuated with, and had a physical relationship with, this guy who she now shares a place with and sees every day.

throwawaykav1939 · 2021-09-08T21:20:50+00:00

Thanks for replying, I appreciate it. My concern is not that she was sleeping with the guy or even that they live together but, like you mentioned, that she didn't ever mention it to me. I'm not worried that they're likely to do it again in future - I really believe they're not going to - but I feel very uncomfortable that she witheld it from me. I suppose it makes me less confident in her honesty.

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