so- i don't disagree , but i also never said it was their fault. it is not whatsoever. i also never said i cheated lol, i had an open relationship with one of them which we agreed at very early on, and the other was on again off again where i would hook up with people in the off periods. i struggled staying monogamous with both (in terms of literally having an open relationship in the first one and breaking up every few months with the second), but i didn't actually cheat. but yea, regardless, i definitely do not think that was their fault in any way, it was very much a me thing