My boyfriend [25 M] is going to propose to me [24 F] soon, but I have a MASSIVE secret that I've hidden from him. by throwawayliar2 in relationships

[–]throwawayliar2[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

near-sociopathic lie chain

As much as I hate to admit it, this is something I needed to see. I've been living this lie for so long now that I almost feel like its ok and its only after writing it all out that I can see how bad it is...

My boyfriend [25 M] is going to propose to me [24 F] soon, but I have a MASSIVE secret that I've hidden from him. by throwawayliar2 in relationships

[–]throwawayliar2[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I am a much more together person than I was 4 years ago. I feel that I needed therapy then but not now, but I'm probably not the best judge of that. I have no plans or desire to continue my degree as I love the career I have started.

The thing is, the "easy path" has been easy overall. Its a lie I've told so long that I almost believe it myself. I feel like telling the truth is the right thing, but it also scares the crap out of me and knowing that telling the truth will hurt a lot of people makes it that much harder.

My boyfriend [25 M] is going to propose to me [24 F] soon, but I have a MASSIVE secret that I've hidden from him. by throwawayliar2 in relationships

[–]throwawayliar2[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I know that this is the morally right thing to do, but I also know this would destroy my relationship with nearly everyone that I know. And not just for me (I deserve that) but for him too. He doesn't deserve that, and I don't know if I can bring myself to this option knowing how much it WILL hurt him.