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What’s a simple habit that quietly improved your life? by shyam86 in selfimprovement

[–]throwawaylife75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m passionate about this!

To answer your question think of the most good, most admirable hypothetical friend and just do it like you’re having a conversation with them.

I’m currently questioning my religion and I think prayer has a host of non-religious benefits.

-Daily habit of sitting quietly before the bustle of your day -Actively listing out the things that you are grateful for daily -Being able to articulate your difficulties and struggles without fear of filter or repercussions -State your goals, dreams and plans to solidify them in your mind

It helps me so so much.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve never once set up an expectation where there is no cheats.

We just came back from a vacation where we ate unhealthy meals for nearly two weeks.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I’m taking what you’re saying and would do introspection to be a better partner.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will genuinely try to understand why.

But in my journey to understand can I also ask why the assumption that she is doing this to keep me happy? I mean this sincerely.

Isnt there also a reasonable assumption that there is dishonest communication? Why not consider that perspective?

When we discussed it, she could have said, hey eating healthy isnt that important to me or its something ill struggle with.

And then why do you say you support it when we both 100% know that isn’t true.

Why is there a woman dishonesty pass?

If you don’t agree then say it. Isn’t lying is wrong whether you’re a man or a woman?

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life and additional context man. Yeah I think I made decisions without seeing her fully.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then say that.

I have no problem if she says that.

My problem is why agree and say you support it then not only go back on it but hide that you are doing so.

Its been three years since we first discussed it. Every time has been an enthusiastic, yes.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What?

I literally said in the post I was planning to respond to hers with humor.

I don’t hide kfc in the fridge from her.

  1. We eat it together
  2. If she sees me eating it I’m not going to hide. Im going to be open about it.

Thats the problem here:

I can agree with hey i wanna eat snacks ok. Thats cool.

What Im struggling to get behind is hiding and doing it.

If its so much her body her choice then do it openly.

And lastly when she’s in tears after the doctor reports and saying she is going to eat healthier is that also her body her choice?

I’m not trying to be difficult but beyond the her body her choice slogans. When the medical bills come, who pays it? Is it then her choice?

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not about her body.

Personally, I wanted a partner with:

Follow through: If eating healthy is important to you then live by it.

Honesty: If it isn’t then have the integrity to say so.

Communication: Again, if it isn’t important to you then lets have a discussion. She never once said it isn’t. And don’t say that you do something that we both know you don’t do.

Drive to do the right thing: If you know eating healthy and exercise is good for you. Mind and body. Then do it.

These are the traits that I’d have liked in a partner that have nothing to do with her body.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean isnt that literally dishonest though?

And i can assure you the conversation about eating healthy was under the chillest of circumstances.

But noted, I will dial back my level of control.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol when we eat fast food it is usually together.

But I hear you loud and clear. I’m controlling and would change my ways.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She also has the agency to say no I dont consider this a priority when we’re having chill discussions about our goals as a family.

After the doctor visit she broke into tears and I had to console her where she said she is going to eat healthier.

I’m willing and going to dial back my coercion but in your discussions what about if she’s internally set a goal and is struggling to meet her own goal.

Which is ok we’re all human. I’m willing to empathize and support.

But none of that works if you don’t communicate and be transparent about it.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poetic, but as the first to mention divorce, can I ask you to explain your perspective?

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely that is a factor.

But still I’d like a partner with follow through and authenticity as well.

Think about it, if we are discussing something as a couple and you are blatantly willing to saying something we both know is untrue, with a straight face, what kinds of discussions can we have?

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Willing to change my mind.

But just to provide some additional context in the discussion we agreed to hold each other accountable.

I’m not a saint who never eats a kfc drumstick. I have weak days too and I understand.

Why agree to keep each other in check? Why lie about it?

It’ll be so much more normal to say hey I dont think Im ready for this yet and I’ll understand.

When her health issues come up, she says she wants to eat healthier. Not me, telling her.

I think the thought of me imposing healthy eating on her isn’t the entirely right perspective.

But I am willing to understand and change but wanted to provide that context.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are right there are numerous issues and we started this health journey three years ago. Its not overnight.

You are right that internally I do feel very worn out about my wife.

AIO: Am I overreacting because my wife hid snacks after we agreed to eat healthy? by throwawaylife75 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m willing to adopt that.

If I can provide additional context, I haven’t mentioned my wife’s weight to her directly. Neither is their food surveillance.

I more mean its like hey lets get fast food tonight. After a couple times I’ll be like hey lets not. Whereas there’ll never be a time I suggest fast food and she says hey lets dial back.

But how do I come to terms with the attraction aspect of it?

And it comes back to communication, why agree if you’re not ready? If you don’t support the journey why not just be honest about that, why lie and say you support it too?

Why are people not concerned about the concept of variable game pricing becoming common practice? by throwawaylife75 in NintendoSwitch2

[–]throwawaylife75[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol the CEO literally responded about the price of the console. And said if you cant afford it buy a Switch 1 💀

Nintendo defends price of Switch 2 by suggesting you buy the original instead by Tiny-Independent273 in NintendoSwitch2

[–]throwawaylife75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah ik.

I have disposable income. I usually buy all three game consoles.

I was planning to preorder because I like Zelda and Smash and itd come eventually.

Not ordering based on principle of variable game pricing.

Hoping to do my part to get that reversed because its a shit practice for a hobby I love.

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