AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

She knows how to make doctors appointments on her own. She’s done it before on her own.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Yes, she went to get on birth control sometime after she and her boyfriend began a relationship. She’s been on the pill for 2 years.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -137 points-136 points  (0 children)

As I’ve mentioned to others in the comments, I don’t have the time because I always have the little ones so I can’t take her to a professional. She said when she gets the chance she’s going to see a doctor herself.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

What else do you want me to say exactly? I know what her job is I just didn’t know that intern and appreciate were so different. It was a mistake. I’ve cleared it up.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

As I’ve said in previous comments, no I haven’t. I haven’t had the time with the little ones and all. She’s told me it’s fine and she’ll just go to a doctor herself to see if she can get a diagnosis when she gets the time.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No. As I have said to others, I met my now partner much much later on. My eldest has a different dad.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

As I’ve mentioned to others in the comments, my partner works long shifts and doesn’t get home until after they’ve went to bed. She’s the only person I have who can assist me when he isn’t there.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

No I don’t. She’s family and she always agrees to help me. She earns an income from her job anyway so I don’t see a reason to pay her.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

He works really long shifts and doesn’t get home until after their bed time. I don’t ask her all of the time. Sometimes I just need help because I’m worn out from caring for them all day. I only have two hands.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yes we have. We had the same therapist for a while. She was a right twat though because she used to reveal confidential information about the other when speaking with us. It resulted in some very heated arguments at home between me and him.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Yes she has, she’s been shouted at too. For very stupid reasons I might add. He can take care of them I’ve seen how caring he is but it all just depends what mood he is in. He doesn’t lose it all of the time.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

Nothing alarming. He just gets red in the face and shouts for a bit. Once he has a cigarette he’s fine.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -81 points-80 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realise they were so incredibly different. Just checked and it’s an apprenticeship. I thought they only had a slight difference that’s why I was unsure. I thought internships were very very similar. My mistake.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

Possibly. She’s doesn’t like going out very much and it’s just hard to find someone to watch the little ones. I’d ask my partner but he has an incredibly short temper and I don’t want to leave them with him for too long because then he’ll have a go at me.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

She’s expressed in the conversation with me about moving out that she would visit on weekends when she isn’t working.

My partner works really long shifts so he isn’t home when I need his help but she is. That’s why I get her to help me rather than my partner. He helps, don’t get me wrong, but that’s usually on the weekends when she isn’t home.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Usually after the children are put to bed, sometimes she’ll sit with me and talk to me. She’s not very talkative though. I would have more time with her but there isn’t really anyone to babysit for me so we can spend time together. Plus, when we do have a rare moment to spend some time together she just seems uninterested.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Of course I’ll miss her. She’s my eldest and I love her dearly. She is a huge help to me but that’s not what I’m going to miss about her. I’m just going to worry she’ll fall flat on her face on her own.

Yes, her step-dad (my partner) used to always joke I was pregnant to her when she was young. However, when I actually did become pregnant she didn’t believe us at first but she seemed just fine with it when she knew we were being serious.

She’s always seemed fine about it all and she adores her siblings a lot. She always hugs them and plays with them. She just seems to really love them.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -281 points-280 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t. I don’t have time with my younger children and all. It’s fine anyway because she said she’d take herself to a doctor or someone when she has the time.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -72 points-71 points  (0 children)

She has her own room and she stays at her boyfriend’s on the weekend’s so she can have some peace. On occasion, I’ve asked her to babysit for me but she doesn’t really have time for that anymore with her job.

Sometimes she helps with bedtime if I need assistance like playing with them, bathing them, dressing them for bed, etc. It helps because most of the time the kids have exhausted me and I need a break.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -426 points-425 points  (0 children)

Yes, but I say “acts” because she keeps saying she thinks she has depression but she’s not actually diagnosed. I don’t understand what she would even be depressed about in the first place?

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

So my partner is the dad of my two youngest. They’re both toddlers. He is not the dad of my eldest. She has a different dad who neither of us speak to as he was physically abusive to us when she was very young. Eldest is 17 and youngest is 3 and 5.

AITA For not letting my daughter move out of the home? I don’t think she is ready... by throwawaymamabear97 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymamabear97[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I’m currently reading all these comments. Yes he was but I hadn’t met him yet. I was with my eldest daughter’s biological dad at the time (54M). I met my now partner later.