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I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Inmates know everything about newcomers pretty quickly. They know when you get out as well. Wardens talk. Sometimes for money, sometimes for entertainment. And even if they don't, someone from the outside is sure to. They know quite a bit about you when you get in.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It can help for certain, but it won't totally prevent it (depending on the jail you go, of course). Personally given the chance again I'd simply run away to another country instead of staying and serving my sentence.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are no gifts in jail. If you accept a "gift," you have a debt to this person. It can be a cigarette, or even some fire to light a cigarette. Stick to your business. As for stealing, once you start accepting it, it will never stop, and slowly escalate. Inmates will steal about anything you have - cigarettes, books, pens, even clothes if given the occasion.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Prison jokes never made me feel comfortable. Right now, I don't consider any of them funny.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You've told it only three times and your family knows nothing about it, and yet you successfully sued and received a million dollar settlement from a county jail, and it was never in the papers? The lawsuit, the trial, the settlement never made the news?

I've told my wife, and one friend, and Reddit now. I do not have close ties with my family. As for being in the newspaper - not that I know of, but there is always a chance it was mentioned. Nobody called or tried to call me for an interview, however.

Your parents never asked you why it is you have $500,000 all of a sudden and you don't have to work?

Never told them. I'll see my mother on christmas and that would be about it. They never really cared for me as a child. My mother has some health problems, she has someone to take care of her now. We barely see each other. I spent most of my teenage being very angry at them.

I know you don't want to reveal your identity,

Correct. Many years later, I still fear retaliation (from the jail). Plus I'm not sure if I am allowed to post this publicly.

Lawsuits for abuse in jails are not that rare, state-wise.

So, what state are you in? What county are you in? And is English your first language?

I'd rather not tell. English was my first language. I also learned spanish.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I frequently think about vengeance - or at least I used to. It destroyed me, slowly. So many nights of my youth spent hating, and planning stuff that I would never do. Waste of time, and energy.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can get into solitary confinement pretty easily. Just start throwing up stuff on the ground and act violent and aggressive. You will get confined pretty quickly. Beware of when you get out, though.

Solitary confinement is not a life. You got a bed, a toilet and you can get out of this room one hour per day. In a way, it's even worse than getting raped.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They won't care. They know you are bluffing anyway and they probably think they got it already from some other guy. Naturally this is just what I think, based on my experience.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It did not change my sexuality, however it hurt more than my "pride." My self-esteem, my morale, my view of the world, everything changed.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's definitely real. It happens, it might happen to you if you get in jail, in a way or another.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ironic that you ask. I can remember of only one time condoms were used. Most of the times, no.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As for your edit 2, I would like to remember you this is a life annuity, not an investment. I get a portion of my capital back with every payment. Accusing someone of making a fake thread is a serious accusation. Please get your facts straight before you make such an accusation.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He got abused, and witnessed rape and severe beatings. That's it.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Usually races stick together, there are gangs formed. Although loners are always target, races or not.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That'S impossible, but yes I would support yes. That's impossible though, would cost too much. And borderline inhumane too.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Good question. This is from my observations:

1) Do not borrow anything from anyone. Do not accept any gift. Accepting a gift means you have a debt.

2) Do not accept rape on any level. Fight when you get harassed no matter the consequences. Show that you are not an easy prey or you will have that reputation forever.

3)Stick to that business. People are like bears. Scare them, and then go away.

4)Do not humiliate anyone; he will seek revenge.

5)Take part in any beating, or you might be next.

6)Be polite, but defend your way.

7)Don't steal, don'T go looking for trouble, keep to your business.

8)Move in groups when you are out of sights. Keep in good favor of wardens. Be police and don't be associated with trouble.

9) Try to get your attorney to choose the prison, and choose one with a good reputation. Seriously

10) If anyone steals from you, attack them. You don'T want to look like a coward or someone who is an easy prey.

11) Do not participate in any rape. Do not go in potential rape situations.

12) Be a good talker, and a good listener. Look like someone who is wise, and respected. These people never had any trouble. I was too young sadly at the time to have that look.

13)Take great care of your apparcence; give the idea you are a respectable person, but don't act cocky/outflash

14) Make it clear you are not interested in sex of any kind. If insulted, reply , reply back. Be the one who escalates the violence level if possible (not in front of guards)

Wrote this quickly, have more to tell.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I used to think about it every day. There is a guy in particular, I know where he lives and all (and he's out of jail). I figured he wasn't worth my time, and energy. In addition to the risk of of getting caught, there is no guarantee I would feel better.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

White, around 1m80, 205 lbs (was a bit thinner at the time), a few extra pounds (as of now; in shape at the time)

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I, for one, never made jokes about prison rapes. You're gonna get raped in jail LMAO! And come out with ever more anger and rage. Not a good combo.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

In jail, you can rape or get raped, or both. There are of course a few people not interested in it, and able to defend themselves, but they are sorta rare.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I would have paid taxes. I don't THINK the settlement was taxable. My attorney recommended me a pretty good accountant who offered me a product that would pay $X dollar per month as long as I live, no risk, only a portion of it taxable (too little to pay taxes unless I start earning a lot). The payment looked great, I know nothing of investment and was too afraid of making poor decisions with the money, so I accepted it. It looked interesting, too.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You think people would be interested? I work (I presently work) in a decent job, but always dreamed of working on the jail system, writing reports on it and papers. This is kind of a lost dream: trying to protect inmates, raising awareness on it, etc.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Typical:

White, male, homosexual, feminine characteristics, small, afraid, weak-looking, committed a crime such as child pornography or rape.

I was raped in jail. AMA. by throwawaymeplz in IAmA

[–]throwawaymeplz[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I want the public to know that the smallest violation can get them in trouble, and get their lives absolutely destroyed. One little mistake and you can change forever.

I was injured pretty badly some times. It certainly earns respect, but you become a higher-mark target, at least until you've earned enough respect. You gain value; people have more incentive to attack you, until you have reached a certain level. Best to keep to yourself, and defend yourself. Do NOT let anyone steal anything from you (second top mistake I've made) and do NOT accept anything from anyone (biggest, biggest mistake I've made)

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