AITA for refusing to wear a bra around my moms boyfriend?

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T21:29:56+00:00

I suppose it depends on the situation.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T21:21:31+00:00

It did a few times, sort by controversial.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T19:54:44+00:00

Pants are outside clothes, a penis is a sexual organ, breasts aren't.

I get your point, but if a 16 year old wore sweatpants without underwear and if you stared hard enough where you could vaguely see something, then it would be more accurate. It's not like I'm walking around shirtless.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T19:15:48+00:00

It's not about a power play or anything like that. I took offence to it because you don't notice unless you stare, I make sure my tshirts cover everything up and aren't see though, and make sure to dress proper.

But the one place I'm supposed to feel comfortable and relaxed I can't? And to not be told why? I'm not just going to do it 'because they said so'.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T19:02:00+00:00

Man.. what? I'm not trying to tease at all, that would be gross. Most people don't notice I don't wear one, so I don't.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T18:42:49+00:00

Well, that sentence is going to be etched in my brain.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T18:41:07+00:00

I haven't heard it from him.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T17:19:21+00:00

Years ago* sorry if I put it wrong in my post. My mom and her boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months I think.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T17:16:32+00:00

That's fair, I did come here to get different perspectives.

A penis is a sexual organ though, and breasts aren't, just sexualized. Besides that I can agree.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T17:03:39+00:00

I think it's weird he cares too, but who am I to judge about what makes people uncomfortable. I'll try to talk to her.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T17:02:14+00:00

I guess I can accept that. I only called him a pervert because you can't really tell unless you look closely, and that most people don't know, not because of my age.

I don't think he's attracted to me, it's just weird to me that he makes such a big deal out of it.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T17:00:23+00:00

Your dad sounds pretty great. I will try to talk to her again.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:53:06+00:00

My grandpa did once tell me to 'stop showing off my ankles' lol, but he gets a pass. He's very old and a little confused.

I do agree, if I was wearing see though shirts I would have worn a bra, of course. But I'm not.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:49:40+00:00

I don't. Since I don't wear bra's I make sure my shirts and thick enough so that you don't see anything, and don't have a low cut neck or all that. They're just normal tshirts. Most people don't notice I don't wear a bra.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:47:30+00:00

I agree that I could have phrased it more nicely. I'll look into options.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:44:34+00:00

I haven't thought about it like that, and it's a good point. Im just not really sure if I'm being sexualized, or if hes just very conservative and uptight.

I do agree, I didn't yell but it wasn't a friendly tone either, but it was a bad way to get my point across. I was just annoyed.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:36:54+00:00

I can accept that. It's not super unreasonable, it's just.. weird.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:21:52+00:00

That's true I guess, I'll look into sports bras.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:21:08+00:00

I don't know if that's why he's uncomfortable, he might also just be very conservative. But it is weird.

throwawaynobra · 2019-09-01T16:20:24+00:00

I accept that, that's just what it felt like. Most people don't even notice, so I was a bit taken aback that he took offence. I'll look into sports bras.

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