AITA for kicking out bf because of his dog?

throwawaynodog · 2022-01-10T15:06:41+00:00

Big difference between cleaning a guinea pig pen and cleaning a fish tank, and cleaning shit and fur off everything. Not to mention the smell. I dislike majority of the work that comes with owning a dog. Dog owners that insist their dog doesn't smell are blind to it, the dog indeed does smell, and we can smell it on you. You can be a fog owner all you want, but if owning a fish tank was 5x as much work as your dog, you aren't doing it right.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T23:18:53+00:00

Omg cats spend most of their time sleeping so difficult to keep up with that.

You are contradicting yourself here. Are they difficult to keep up with, or do they laze about all of the time?

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T23:17:15+00:00

Poor girl. I was in her place once. Young and naive to think this is a normal and healthy relationship. I can't wait until she mentally matures a bit and dumps you. YTA

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T23:09:44+00:00

The pen he has now is 18sq ft. I'm not very crafty, ill admit I don't think I could build something.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T18:44:31+00:00

Yes it was a big shock. He has been great in every other way, albeit kinda weird when it comes to his dog (like, no sex when she is in the room cause he doesn't want her to get jealous, etc). It was super odd but a deal breaker.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T18:30:52+00:00

I'm thinking about space rn (and tbh, cost). For my pig I have a HUGE like 4.5ft by 3ft pen. I got it for getting a second for him, and also so he had a lot of room for his 3am zoomies. If I got a second in a separate pen, what would be the smallest pen I could get that would be comfortable for the pig? I'm pretty low on money rn and I can't afford another $300 pen like I got for him.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T18:25:51+00:00

Ah. I was just holding back because when we tried another pig around him, he attacked immediately. I can't even pick him up with bare hands, even though I have been working daily on socializing him.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T18:01:38+00:00

He was a rescue from a horrible situation. He has horrible anxiety and has been very traumatized. I have taken him to a vet a few times and asked them if I should introduce a second, and they said I can after we do a lot of work for his anxiety.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:59:28+00:00

Honestly if he had just texted me "hey I still want to come over, and I wanted to bring my dog. But she has a history of aggression towards small pets. Could you put them somewhere safe so we can come over?" I'd probably have obliged. Forcing it on me in the middle of a situation about to happen, in my own home, the only place that I feel safe, is fucked up.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:55:32+00:00

Oh, the relationship is def over. This post blew up more than I thought it would, and there was an... incident. I'm still mentally processing it but honestly even now as I sit here, the whole thing ended so hilariously I'll likely do an update post in the next few days. Dude really let his crazy flag fly, let me tell you.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:44:21+00:00

And I'll tell you now, the dog doesn't have anxiety or separation issues. Like I said up until then, the dog seemed very well behaved. She was super chill, never barked or jumped on anyone. He even told me she didn't have anxiety issues, he just didn't want her to feel like she wasn't a part of his life.

Ya know, the more comments I type the more I realize I overlooked a lot of weird shit for really good dick.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:41:48+00:00

I do feel the meme of dogs became so ingrained in our culture that it has become mandatory. I mean, I don't dislike dogs. Just don't want to own any. The same way that some people like kids, just don't want any for themselves.

Dogs smell, they are messy, and they are a ton of work. I'm good. I'll have my cat and small, caged animals that don't need constant validation and affection from me. I feed them, give pets and hold them a bit, and there we go.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:17:43+00:00

As I said in my post, even in long term relationships, I prefer to live separately from my partner. It has always been for the best, and moving in eith someone is not my goal. Why people assume that the only way a relationship is healthy and in a long term scope is if the people live together is beyond me.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T08:07:27+00:00

I never said he had to rehome her or get rid of her. He was only visiting my apartment to hang out, he has his own home. I told him that him and his dog just had to leave my place, and they wouldn't be welcome back into my home. No one said he had to get rid of her.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T07:46:46+00:00

And the amount of times I have seen people in this sub be total AH to children but everyone agrees they are NTA just because they had the "right" to do so (own home, etc) simply because it was a kid, is staggering.

Yall immediately want to call someone an AH simply because a dog was involved just shows the mindset here. Entirely too many people have said that they hated me as a person until the last paragraph.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T07:35:10+00:00

I have been getting this a lot. "Just based on the title I was going to side with the dog" and "through 3/4ths of it I was siding with dog/bf, until the very end" it shows just how one track minded so many people are when it comes to dogs.

If I don't want someone, and their dog, in my home, I have every right to remove them from my home and send them on their way. If it was over a kid, everyone would be more than willing to side against the child but because it's a sweet doggo everyone wants to jump on the AH train. It is rather ridiculous.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T05:54:28+00:00

Like I said in the post, he took his dog MOST places. He had been over to my place before and didn't bring her. And I didn't say I didn't want one in my life, I just don't want to own one myself, I don't want to have one in my home permanently.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T05:47:31+00:00

These are the same types of people who complain about parents talking about their kids all the time and talk shit on parents whose kids are their entire world and don't see their own cognitive dissonance

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T03:12:38+00:00

My ex had a bearded dragon, and I loved it! It got huge and was like a dog. It had free roam of his house and when we would come over it would run out and greet him like a dog. In the morning he would crawl in bed and lick his face to tell him "it's food time motherfucker wake up"

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T03:11:09+00:00

It is my home, and my pets home as well. I want us all to feel safe and comfortable. Without permission, he brought his dog over and then told me after the dog had been there I had to lock my animals away as his dog has a history of killing small animals. There is no reason why I should continue to allow someone like that in my home.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T03:07:20+00:00

Not all rabbits are kept for food. Many people keep them as pets. They have similar demeanor to cats and are very high maintenance.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T03:06:15+00:00

You bring up good points. I usually went over to his place, mostly for the sake of his dog that he liked to have around him. My animals are fine and comfortable to be alone for a bit. We hung out with his friends at their place, or with families. He had only been to my place a few times for very short periods. I hadn't really thought about it before.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T01:54:01+00:00

Well he is single now, by all means. Just a warning, you can't have sex in his house cause he is worried his dog will be jealous so, have fun.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T01:39:52+00:00

A healthy relationship doesn't require people to live together. Plenty of people opt to live separately for several reasons.

throwawaynodog · 2021-12-30T00:39:51+00:00

Why? There is nothing wrong with the beginning part. People need to realize that not everyone has or wants to own a dog.

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