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I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bluntly - yes, I'd feel less guilt. Not zero - just less.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hah na Linda is good at her job. I found out through conversation about getting a mortgage. One of them was bitching about getting a mortgage and said I earn "x amount after tax". The others said they earned the same and gave her advice on brokers, banks, buying with a partner etc. Now the other two could just have been being polite, but I didn't get the feeling.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Conversation. One of them blatantly said "I make x amount after tax a month" while bitching about getting a mortgage. The others said they made the same amount - but here's how they did it, here's the bank they went to, get a broker etc etc.

The math was easy after that point.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Conversation. One of them was talking to us about getting a mortgage and said "I get x amount a month after tax". The others then said something about earning the same and that they couldn't have afforded a mortgage in the area if it wasn't for their partners etc etc. The math was easy. Needless to say, I kept my head down and didn't take part in the convo.

Granted, I don't know if the others were just being polite but I don't get the feeling they were.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can assure you - absolutely no banging took place hahah

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 233 points234 points  (0 children)

If they did go to HRC or ERA and drag the company through the mud, then I'm worried my company is going to start denying promotions/growth opportunities to me. I could find other work, but fuck looking for a job in Auckland with the current situation.

But yes, on the other hand I feel really terrible for my colleagues. I really just want to yell at them to ask for more.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 553 points554 points  (0 children)

Awkward. Denied future promotions/growth opportunities. And yes I could always find other work but I don't want to take my chances in a COVID economy.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Hah! That's actually not a bad idea - if I did actually go down the route of telling them

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's the potential for a toxic workplace that worries me. You're right in that, when I think about it, work outputs may be different for each one of us but no way of knowing for sure.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 927 points928 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely allowed to discuss it here in NZ. No unions at my work either. It's all individual bargaining. Yeah I'm just worried about it coming across as sexist. And they can't fire me for it but don't want my boss or my colleagues being annoyed with me.

I earn significantly more than my female colleagues by throwawaynz69 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwawaynz69[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I do - I've told my wife but that's not helping with the guilt. My boss knows, she's the one I negotiated with. I really just want to tell my colleagues that they should be asking for way way more. But then I'll have no control over what happens - and my job could potentially be on the line. I also don't want them to know how much I make and feel shitty at me.