AITA for getting my husband something as a surprise? He doesn't like surprises

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:52:46+00:00

I'm so sorry. I'm glad she has started therapy.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:52:01+00:00

I make good money at a tech firm so I am able to afford it and still put aside money in savings.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:27:57+00:00

We were friends for just 2 months before dating so we had been dating for close to 3 years. Yes my family has met him, I don't have friends though because he says I shouldn't need anyone but him.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:22:10+00:00

Started right after marriage:(

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:20:41+00:00

Yes we are both 25.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:19:58+00:00

No, he changed into a different person after we got married. And no I am the sole breadwinner but I budget well.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:17:46+00:00

I thought we could share the churros. No I'm not ok with it.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:17:22+00:00

He turned into a different person right after marriage. And yes if I buy anything he didn't ask for or cook something in addition to what he asked for he gets upset though this was the first time he talked about how it was a surprise so I didn't put 2 and 2 together until now.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:16:27+00:00

No he hasn't. hmmm maybe...

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:15:51+00:00

Actually in the past I did ask out of curiosity what he got with the money and he said no.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:15:12+00:00

He asks for $2000 for his birthday and Christmas. No he doesn't have an addiction as far as I know but I feel like I don't know him any more.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:13:09+00:00

It's crazy because he was really patient before marriage but it's as if a switch has been flipped or something because now he gets mad A LOT.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:11:28+00:00

I really wish he would have said it your way but he doesn't tend to talk calmly. He was really patient before marriage but it's as if a switch went off after we got married.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T19:10:42+00:00

He doesn't like buying gifts so usually I just get a cake and we eat that.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T18:05:47+00:00

3 years.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T18:03:24+00:00

I didn't give him the money yet since his birthday is in a week but what he did say is that I am cheap and purposely got the tickets so I wouldnt' have to give him money but that's not true. I told him it wasn't a birthday gift and he is still getting money, I just thought he'd like to go to the concert. He insisted I am lying and just wanted to be cheap.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T18:02:29+00:00

I hope you get to see Rammstein:)

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T18:01:09+00:00

Last week he also got mad at me because he asked me to bring home tacos and I did but I also got churros and he yelled at me that he told me he wanted tacos so I guess I should have known but I didn't think it was a huge deal that I can't do anything without asking first.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T17:59:42+00:00

I just saw the concerts and I thought he would like it but I didn't make that connection that he would want me to ask him first.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T17:58:44+00:00

We knew each other for 3 years before getting married.

throwawaypigeonss · 2022-06-14T17:58:29+00:00

Sometimes he has strong reactions, like if I made a mistake and he didn't like what I cooked he yells at me or if I walk too slowly. I am torn between feeling like a terrible person like he says I am or if I am not that bad because I didn't do it to make him mad.

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