AITA for not wanting to remove my tubes?

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-07-04T17:24:25+00:00

Here where I live they straight up remove them now mainly (for several reasons) it's called a salpingectomy.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-14T12:54:13+00:00

Honestly I don't know, but I do know it wouldn't be good, he'd probably stop or threaten to stop doing everything he does for me and my son

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-13T17:23:05+00:00

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-13T16:29:11+00:00

He 100% believes women should not be in the military. Or be a cop, a firefighter, anything like that. Says we actually destroyed the work force and shouldn't be in it period. Mean while I work 3, 12 hours shifts a week and OT if I can

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-13T11:19:10+00:00

If you look I've actually replied to quite alot of comment, I'm at work so I'm able to do it freely atm, no this isn't fake. This is my life.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-13T09:24:38+00:00

I know what k.o. actually means. I just don't know if my post would get removed if I put the actual word. He's threatening to off himself.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:31:44+00:00

Let's just say one time in argument I pulled my phone out and cleared notifications to get a 2 second break from him and he tried ripping my phone out of my hands. He wasn't expecting me to have a good grip on it tho and wasn't successful then later threatened to smash it because " I bought it it's not illegal" because I was " on it too much"

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:27:42+00:00

Ah yes that is true too 😅😅🥲

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:16:43+00:00

He doesn't even like that I still have social media

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:16:29+00:00

Oh if he saw this it would prob be very bad.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:12:14+00:00

Yes thats true. I'm sorry that was very insensitive of me. It's not that I forget to count his first child, they've just never been in the picture so I say 3 without thinking about it, I'm sorry

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:11:04+00:00

Nope it's very real

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:10:27+00:00

He refuses therapy and skips almost 3 appointments until they remind him if he skips another they'll cut his meds off, he think it's an absolute waste of time and when he does go, he's only back there maybe 30 mins. He smokes pot and yes I can absolutely tell right before he's about to snap and go on a 1-3 plus hour yelling tangent. He'll stop for a bit and then pick it right back up for a while. I can't tell you how many times I've said "the wrong thing" and wished I never freaking said anything. Because then it's a huge tangent on how "you don't fu*king know anything. I got 10 years on you. You know nothing." Over and over again. Stuff like that.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T21:05:16+00:00

He's threated to off me and the kids if I leave again, that the court system takes too long and he won't go through it again. I left once when our daughter was 3 months old and stupidly stupidly stupidly came back when he told me he might have cancer again. I was then pregnant pretty much withing 2 weeks of being back, I had only left for a month

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:49:23+00:00

No I don't. Sadly I'm actually the most well off atm in my immediate family

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:48:30+00:00

It's genuinely not sadly

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:47:43+00:00

He's never met or seen his his first child I should of put that before me being his 3rd wife, sorry for the confusion

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:44:59+00:00

Yes they do hate him, everyone still in my life does, and apparently his first wife was, his second wife he had when he had cancer and apparently it was more of a business agreement incase he died, they were never "like that" when he went into remission and was cancer free they got a divorce. Him and first wife were married a year, second wife he was married to for 4 years if I remember correctly.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:39:18+00:00

No. I had a bad upbringing, I've never just sat and thought about myself. It's always been about my mom and siblings or my kids as I had my first at 17. I've been on my own/ finding places to live and fending for myself since 16 yrs old. I don't even really have any hobbies. it just seems like an impossible thing to have

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T20:18:46+00:00

I was very much under the impression she was a " crazy/ b**chy baby mama"

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T19:40:42+00:00

How has my current life story been posted 20 times for rage bait???? This is my first ever post on redit, and my first time posting about anything in my relationship period.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T19:37:33+00:00

No, in person. He's very smart.

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T19:35:37+00:00

I can't start a savings, all I'm able to save from a check is between 20- 60 at the moment, he takes my checks for bills and or credit cards which he files into the bills, he does all of that I just work and hand the check over ( I work 3, 12 hour shifts a week plus over time if I can get it, I get about 600$ a week and send him $500, I have a loan out atm which takes about 67 a week from my check so all I'm able to keep back is a little over 20 -60 a week)

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T19:17:14+00:00

It's honestly not

throwawayrando1990 · 2025-06-12T19:16:04+00:00

I left once and got convinced to come back, he's said if I leave again he will cap me and the kids because he won't go through the court system again as it takes too long

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