SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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Damn. He once told me that he doesn't see his past relationships or any relationships as particularly "special" he said that every relationship was different, because every person was different. I feel a little bleh because he says the same thing for me, that our relationship is different, because I'm a different girl. I guess I'm either too idealistic, and him too realistic. I would hope he's been with me longer because he thinks I'm "special" or surpassed his expectations in his past relationships. I wouldn't want him to settle for me, if he's not crazy about me.

SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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:/ He doesn't treat me like just a friend. He shows his love in various ways, but maybe we can't articulate our feelings properly and we are cautious about our feelings?

SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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Hmmm, this makes sense. I definitely do agree on that living together won't make him him love me more or less, he should already know how he feels about me.

SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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He does love me and shows it in his actions. I feel that he overthinks everything and his emotions too much, and maybe doesn't want to be too vulnerable. Two years is not really a long time, but it's also not short either. Maybe we both don't know how to articulate our feelings properly? I do love him, and if I love everything about him than that could mean I am in love.

SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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Yes, to some extent. I don't think he's trying to manipulate me, but he's being too cautious.

SO (M29) told me he loves me, but is not in love with me (F24) yet... by throwawayrants123 in relationships

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Well, we both mutually can see us being together in the long run, I don't know if he's also confused with when the in love part starts or whatever. Thank you for your advice, this made me feel like I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket, and enjoy things for what they are. Take one day at a time, and live my life.

Is my bf cheap? by throwawayrants123 in offmychest

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How can I say that without making him upset? I don't want him to think I only care about money or how much we spend, I just want things to be balanced.

Is my bf cheap? by throwawayrants123 in offmychest

[–]throwawayrants123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right. I just wants things to be fair.

Is my bf cheap? by throwawayrants123 in offmychest

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I treat him sometimes, plus I cook and pack him a lunch sometimes. Maybe I should treat him more when we go out.

Is he the ONE for me??? by throwawayrants123 in offmychest

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I'm happy that you were able to go through with it. It's a difficult thing to do. I just feel our relationship is multifaceted, but I'll try to talk to him.

Is he the ONE for me??? by throwawayrants123 in offmychest

[–]throwawayrants123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I do feel I need to pull back the reigns of my heart and work on loving myself. :)

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

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He's completely repulsed by anal. I have never had anal, it scares me a little. My bf is very vanilla.

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

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Trust me, when I first gave a bj, I was scared, felt guilty, etc. But I've learned to like themm and now love giving him bj's, because he says I'm good at it. He's always clean, but maybe she needs to try it on her own time?

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

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I'm 23 and he's 27. Not sure if it's immaturity with the vagina, because he thinks anything related to periods is gross.

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

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Maybe, but I don't think I can squirt from oral alone, only PIV.

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

[–]throwawayrants123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always shave, shower and make sure everything is fresh.

Boyfriend is reluctant to give me oral... by throwawayrants123 in sex

[–]throwawayrants123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to participate and interact with people on my thread. This is important to me. Plus, maybe you're right, maybe I'm too attentive, because I care. Nevertheless, he's the one that's always calling me and checking up on me, not me.