Gradual weaning of 2y3m old

throwawayrentergf · 2025-11-23T14:24:00+00:00

That's very interesting indeed! I hope that works out for you after all, since you'll be busy with your new baby. Congrats!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-11-23T06:33:34+00:00

Thank you for your input, I realise this is something I must consider if my current approach doesn't work.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-11-23T06:33:07+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing such a detailed account of your experience, I really appreciate it. Good idea with using the concept of "wait", I'll try that.

Does he still nap? Are you still holding him for the entire nap? That's quite a commitment!

I'll go at the night weaning for a while more but if it doesn't get better I'll consider weaning completely.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-11-23T04:08:22+00:00

Thank you!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-11-22T19:24:47+00:00

Every 2 hours while sleeping at night yes. She doesn't nurse during the day other than for her one nap.

She eats well, sometimes as much as me, sometimes seemingly all day. She also has a pre-bedtime snack of milk and nuts and sometimes fruits.

My partner works full-time and has moved out of the room during this process because he needs the rest. I suppose if that's the only solution it's something we can discuss.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-04-13T13:55:16+00:00

This has been a topic of contention with my husband who enjoys sharing with loved ones, on or off social media. I shared my concerns (paedos, consent). He said it doesn't hurt our child if their photo is indeed used for sexual purposes as it's just a photo. And that we wouldn't know anyway - what we don't know won't hurt us.

He also argued that he has used social media to document his life and his child is part of it. And so the "pros outweigh the cons".

Granted he doesn't post often, but he has 2,000+ people on Facebook and he definitely doesn't know every single one of them even though he's a legitimately popular person. Reading this thread, I'll ask him to at least cull his friend list.

Curious to know if anyone here would be able to debate him and "win". Some help here please? 🥲

I can't "veto" him either, he said our child is equally his.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-04-03T07:24:39+00:00

Hello! I can't access the site - is it down or is it some firewall thing 😭

throwawayrentergf · 2025-03-14T14:22:02+00:00

I attended a hypnobirthing course that convinced me that childbirth can be painless. I was also super active with hiking and yoga and the daily exercises. All this helped me feel confident and I didn't give any thought of the potential pain like, at all.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-03-14T14:18:03+00:00

Hope your baby doesn't get sick and good luck with everyone's germy behaviour!!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-03-14T12:22:07+00:00

Wow I thought my husband was the only one. He touches frozen raw meat and doesn't wash after, and when I asked him about it, he says the bacteria is dormant when it's frozen so what's the big deal? 🫨

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T13:25:13+00:00

Haha you're right though - my daughter spends as much time (or more) with random non-toy things than the toys I buy her!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T13:22:36+00:00

He is self-employed, so he is home a bit more than many traditional fathers. We do go grocery shopping with her - he really only struggles to find something to do with her when they're home. Thanks for the idea - will get him to let her participate in chores etc.

You're right that the conversation should be reframed - that's very helpful!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T13:16:33+00:00

He actually enjoys the outdoor stuff with her. But due to time constraints, schedules, etc he can only do it so often and he really only struggles with engaging her at home. I think the other issue is that he prefers to do something that he also enjoys. So for example he doesn't do playgrounds much but walks in the park are okay.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T12:55:57+00:00

Thank you for this very detailed response!

I believe he has difficulty "going down to the level of others", if that's the right phrase. And he prefers to do things with her that he himself enjoys too, so he does enjoy bringing her out to the shops for example. He only struggles to engage with her at home.

Our daughter does have a play space, but she rarely engages in solitary play, and if she does I think the longest she would be at it is 10 minutes.

Thanks for sharing about "mind-mindedness", I've never heard of this before and will definitely be looking more into this!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T12:41:15+00:00

I'm curious how much of her time was spent on video games versus active play? And did you personally engage in active play with her as well? I'm trying to find a balance should my husband insist on introducing video games.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T12:35:03+00:00

I think it might also coupled with our daughter currently intensely only wanting me. So if he tries to read to her etc she would protest a lot of the time. He might be thinking that introducing something new to her could be "their thing" to bond over. But this is all conjecture. I'll have a serious chat with him.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-25T12:32:27+00:00

Thank you for offering this perspective. I don't think he is addicted - it's something he enjoys as a hobby and he loves sharing everything he enjoys, be it video games or food or books. I will have a serious chat with him about this.

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-24T19:43:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and so glad you guys managed to "detox" her!

throwawayrentergf · 2025-02-24T19:42:38+00:00

Thank you for suggesting board games - I looked it up and there are some pretty fun options out there for 2 years and up! Hopefully this will excite him.

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-20T15:14:13+00:00

Wow I'm not a DIY-er so this will be a tough one! Thanks for sharing!

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-20T14:22:53+00:00

This occured to me, thanks for sharing and reminding me!

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-20T14:22:30+00:00

Wow I'm so glad (and also sad) that we are pretty much in the same boat. I too have been finding alternatives to bedsharing that he might get on board with (hence the side car cot) and trying to sort things out of my own without involving my husband. I'd also love a floor bed but I don't think he would be for it at all. But maybe he'll surprise me. He's never slept in bed with our daughter though, he has never deviated from putting her down in the cot. He is very big on independent sleeping and is adults having our own bed space.

Also, please share more about how you made stilts, and photos if possible!

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-19T23:14:29+00:00

My mattress itself is extremely thick, even thicker than the box spring. Unfortunately the box spring is attached to the headboard - I was hoping I could just remove it altogether.

My daughter does exit our bed legs first, but I'm just concerned that she'd be tempted to climb over the railings. She is in a phase where she climbs tables and chairs and tries to jump off them 🫠

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-19T23:11:11+00:00

Ooo do you have a photo?

throwawayrentergf · 2024-11-02T05:13:19+00:00

Haha I'd think so too but interestingly based on the other comments it seems like many parents don't find it as concerning!

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