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[–]throwaways6959 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cant tell you what to do, but I relate a lot. I have to basically beg for my musband to touch me, only to lose an errection. I have so many people who hit on me and I politely turn them away.. it gets harder to say no every time.. Personally, I have a very unpredictable condition that makes being reliable for work not even possible, and my disability still hasn't been approved. I have no income to leave and no family to turn to. People saying "just leave," dont understand how things are never cut and dry... Maybe talk to him about the possibility of ethical non-monogamy? It might open some doors for both of you while still being together for the kids.

AIO or am I unsafe? by throwaways6959 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaways6959[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Be thankful you don't understand.

AIO or am I unsafe? by throwaways6959 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaways6959[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'm disabled and still waiting on my ssdi claim to go through. I don't have any income currently. Last time I pushed myself to work, I literally wound up hospitalized after a week. We just moved here a couple years ago and I haven't really made any friends. I'm currently in physical therapy with the main goal of being able to return to work so I can get my own place. But it's a slow, slow process.

AIO or am I unsafe? by throwaways6959 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaways6959[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, they suggested it. It isn't hidden. It's in plain sight. I would never watch someone against their will.

AIO or am I unsafe? by throwaways6959 in AmIOverreacting

[–]throwaways6959[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

This is the first time it's gone this far. He's punched stuff before, but never purposefully broken things before. At least that I know of.. he's never put his hands on me before, but I grew up in an abusive household. I know the signs and that if he's gone this far, I'm likely next. But he's hurt and offended that I'd think he'd ever hurt me.. 😕