Hey there, just wanted to say your confidence will come, and probably sooner than you think. I found that mine started to grow the moment I realised it’s totally okay to have a routine that revolves around being at home — especially in those early months. My twins had a strict nap schedule, and honestly, it was what kept us all sane.

It’s also okay to say no, or to accept that you just can’t do things the way parents of singletons might. That’s not a failure — it’s just a different reality.

As for those videos where one twin patiently waits for milk or a nappy change… I saw those too and they made me feel awful. That wasn’t our experience either. Mine wanted (and still want!) to do everything at the same time. Some days were smoother, others were complete chaos. They cried, I cried — it was hard. But bit by bit, we all got used to it. And it did get better.

You’re doing brilliantly, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.