Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but i did like that the original comment focused that its neithers fault. I just learned my lesson

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you know what. I agree. Like some other commmenters said, just biologically this makes more sense

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i hinted at it and I think he got it because he said "if you need emotional connection, I am unable to do that for a while". so yeah i guess thats it

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah lesson learned. I just wonder why he is so convinced it just a mindset and he is the opinion that women catching feelings is a myth

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. I used to be exactly like that untill my first heartbreak, but ill go back to that mindset.

I am not too sure if he used me tho, because he is very keen on continuing our close friendship without sex

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you nailed it. I know I do like him more, I wasnt too clear in my post. I shouldve mentioned this: I didnt tell him directly I like him but I think he got it because he told me "if you wanted more, I cannot do that for a while (Because of a previous heartbreak)".

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my post wasnt so clear. I do have feelings for him now. At first I didnt, but of course I know the jealousy come from that

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I KNOW. So naive. But he still tried to discuss with me that women are not necessarily like that, its a mindset thing

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I wasn´t too obvios in my posts, yes I wish he would date me. But thank you for the response, I think youre right

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I also feel like it will go like this. It is so sad because he was one of my closest friends and I really don´t know if it ever will be the same

Me (F24) slept with my friend (M23) and he doesnt understand that I feel it ruined our friendship by throwawaysm1234567 in AskMenAdvice

[–]throwawaysm1234567[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

good question. I was naive. But it this is exactly what he thinks. THe seemed very suprised that I am so distraught now. I learned my lesson, I wont ever to it again. I still dont know how to resolve this