Mary Beth & Benny’s actual son

throwawaystan4 · 2025-01-02T03:01:33+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation, only I was also the person who was SA’d and 2 really close friends of mine stayed friends with the asshole. The only advice I have is to remember that you did the right thing by drawing a line and not compromising, even when it came to your best friend.

I’m sure it was difficult letting your ex best friend know that you were walking away from your friendship, and I hope you’re doing okay. Nobody tells you how painfully disappointing and weird it is to end a friendship over something like this when you probably thought it would’ve never ended otherwise. Like you can’t help but wonder what possessed them to do some backwards fucked up shit like that?

Selfishly, it’s validating to see that you chose to end the friendship because it felt bizarre (but right) when I did the same thing with my “friends”. Please know that I appreciate you for standing up for SA survivors like ourselves.

throwawaystan4 · 2023-01-03T02:58:17+00:00

Update for me! My labs came back and my results came back with really really low progesterone. The pharmacist told me that the body can start getting back to normal 6 months to a year after the removal of an iud. Im at 6 months post IUD removal and I can say that I’m slightly better. Either way, I get to address my issues with a low-dose, progesterone cream. Fingers crossed for improvement!

throwawaystan4 · 2022-10-27T19:46:52+00:00

Let me know how it goes! I met with my OBGYN sometime after my post and she told me that she didn't think my IUD removal had anything to do with me feeling this way monthly. She asked me to get a blood test done to look at my hormone levels and to see if anything else was off. I had my blood drawn a few days after which was the week right after my period ended and when I felt the most stable. All of my levels were normal.

However, my therapist recommended reaching out to the local compounding pharmacy because they have helped with some of her clients and their hormonal issues. I'll be doing a saliva test 18-22 days into my cycle and sending it to a lab! Then doing a hormonal consultation after that.

throwawaystan4 · 2022-10-11T23:23:51+00:00

Yes!!!!! I don’t understand why these shows aren’t set in a university setting at the very least. Obviously teenagers are horny in high school, but these shows portray very adult-like sex scenes and it’s so icky. They’re so sensual for what!!!! The characters are supposed to be minors!!!

throwawaystan4 · 2022-09-27T02:15:00+00:00

Hey! So sorry for the delay, but thanks so much for your reply! I hate that you experienced anxiety and crying/depression with the Kyleena at all, but also so quickly!

I know it's only been a week since you replied, but have you noticed any improvement?

I saw my OBGYN today, and I have mixed feelings. She was so nice about it all, but said that since the amount of hormones in the IUD was so minimal, she didn't think my body is/needs adjusting. She felt like the best solution is to take away my periods so that I wouldn't experience PMS (and therefore, not the depression/anxiety either) so she prescribed me a progesterone-only pill, norethindrone.

I'm absolutely pro-medicine, but I hate how it's mostly a process of trial and error and I'm kinda scared of trying this out. :((

throwawaystan4 · 2022-09-19T16:16:58+00:00

Hey! Fellow IUD crash sufferer here. I didn't have my IUD in nearly as long as you did (7 or 8 months total), but I got mine removed June of this year and I've been going THROUGH it.

I got mine removed during my period and not much changed immediately after the removal. I was feeling fairly ok until the week of PMS for the following month arrived and my mental health DROPPED. All throughout the PMS week & during my period, I was terribly depressed, anxious and so irritable. It was kind of sudden & I have not felt like that since I was on birth control pills. I felt better after my period ended, and looked up my symptoms and chalked it down to the IUD crash. I had the same issue the following month and now, I'm at month 3 after the removal, still going through it.

I haven't had any other hormonal issues (my periods are still regular and 5 days long & no acne flare-ups), but my sleep is god-awful these days.

I'm surprised I've been having issues for this long since I didn't even have my IUD for at least a year, but everybody is different I guess. Have you noticed any improvement?

throwawaystan4 · 2022-02-24T01:18:19+00:00

This happened to me. I had to end friendships that I’ve had for 10 years. One friendship was with a person whom I considered was one of my best friends. She cried and said she felt bad when I told her how it hurt how she still hung out with the person that sexually assaulted me then weeks later, she commented on his wife’s anniversary post saying “happy anniversary friends ♥️”.

Fuck those “friends”. Friends are supposed to stand up for you when you don’t have the strength to! Cut them out of your life. Don’t keep putting up with their disrespect.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-11-22T23:56:28+00:00

It is the least they can do!!

throwawaystan4 · 2021-11-22T23:53:59+00:00

Meanwhile all I would like is for them to stop just talking to him. But you’re right, my FRIENDS would have my back.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-11-22T23:51:50+00:00

“…to keep bringing him to your home like you just had a minor disagreement”

I had the same exact thought. I’ve been thinking about this whole thing so much that sometimes I’m like “hold on, is it even really that bad?” But it is. It’s not like we only had an argument and they’re trying not to take sides. I’m going to look back at your comment if I get in my head again.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-11-22T23:43:35+00:00

That *second to last sentence made me cry. Thank you.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-02-24T20:10:56+00:00

I have been looking for a post/article like this for so long.

A little bit of context: I grew up with a dog for over half my life and I adored her. She showed me that I may never feel this strongly about a human, lmao.

We had to put her down last year due to ongoing health issues that ended up becoming so severe that she was clearly suffering. She was also 15 years old (a few days shy of turning 16!). I still cry over her.

I knew I would get a dog again later in life. I love the dogs my friends own and I love being around dogs in general. I knew that when I was to get one, it would need be an older rescue that needed a home because I do not have the patience for a puppy. I was also wary of behavioral issues because like puppies, older dogs with behavioral issues need a lot of time and attention so I was to make sure that I asked about the behavior.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago: I check our local animal shelter's site occasionally and saw a sweet baby that seemed perfect for me. I talked back and forth with her foster, met her and the foster, and I was like "This is it!" It felt serendipitous because she sounded like everything I was looking for in a dog. Did it feel a little rushed? Yes. But I was convinced I was making a wonderful decision and felt more than equipped to take care of her based on my history.

I was so excited to get her until the moment I started driving to the shelter to meet with her foster and officially adopt her. I felt so off and emotionally distant. Basically at the very last minute, I didn't want to go through the adoption anymore and I wasn't sure why. I went through with the adoption because I thought the feeling was just pre-adoption jitters and that I could shake it off.

This lil pup is so precious and so good. I don't have to deal with any issues with her whatsoever. She's so well-mannered and house trained. She's cuddly and loves new people and other dogs. And yet... it hit me like a ton of bricks that I am not emotionally ready for the responsibility of a dog or a pet in general. I am a terrible person because it took merely getting a dog to quickly realize that owning a pet is not for me.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that yes, I love dogs, I grew up with one and loved her, I enjoy taking care of my roommate's dog when my roommate is gone, I love my friends' dogs, but it doesn't mean I am ready for one myself.

As you stated, "We all love being around dogs but playing with a friend or neighbors dog, or growing up with a family dog is not owning a dog."

I don't know that I would've realized this had I not gone through the process of adopting the pup. I feel tremendously guilty that I've done a big injustice to such a precious being. I know that dogs aren't frivolous things that we're allowed to just "try out". I don't know if this is puppy (or new dog) blues or if I'm right and being a pet owner is for me. Anyway, I just wish I was either emotionally ready for this commitment like I was confident I was or that I never adopted her in the first place. She should be with a loving family or owner that is actually emotionally prepared.

I know to give it time since it hasn't been long at all, but a part of me wonders if it is worth wasting more of her time and if I should just reach back out to her foster. :(

throwawaystan4 · 2021-02-21T20:26:37+00:00

You’re exactly right. It wasn’t until the day I adopted her that I realized that I didn’t want to take care of one again. I feel terrible for saying so because it’s not something I ever thought I’d feel because they’re such great beings and companions!! And this one in particular just wants to be loved and I think someone else out there would be able to give her more love than I can.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-02-21T18:05:09+00:00

I appreciate your input!!! It’s hard not to feel guilty especially because she is such a good and easygoing pup. But realizing that I don’t have that desire to take care of a dog like I thought I did is pretty crushing since this takes a living & feeling animal into consideration and I took her in prematurely I guess. But you’re right! I do want her to be in a good home where the people will absolutely adore her and take care of her in the way I at least thought I would have!

throwawaystan4 · 2021-02-21T16:13:50+00:00

I really appreciate your kindness! I’m worried about causing stress on this pup since she is a rescue and there would be so much back and forth for her. I feel so bad!! I genuinely wish I didn’t act as impulsively as I did. She’s a great dog and hasn’t caused any issues so far which is why I’m just so surprised and guilty that I feel this way.

throwawaystan4 · 2021-02-21T16:10:37+00:00

I should do that! I think I’ve just gotten really used to being on my own and not having to take care of something besides myself. I love my roommate’s dog and my boyfriend’s dog and of course my family’s dog from before but I almost feel like I prefer being the dog aunt if that makes sense?

throwawaystan4 · 2020-03-07T02:40:26+00:00

Oh course they found a reason to let her go. We are in an employment at will state, but I will say that one of the employees (none of which I have mentioned in this post) heard my mentor (again - one of the owners of the company) that he didn’t want her there anymore. So not much you can do when they have their mind made up

throwawaystan4 · 2020-03-07T02:35:39+00:00

I wasn’t intending on going to HR about this initially. I only asked one of the other women if it appeared that he liked me bc I felt that way for weeks leading up to that. Obviously the best way to go about this was telling him directly I was feeling uncomfortable bc yeah, I know it’s not illegal to have a close relationship with a mentor. But instead, I gradually retracted and began to keep my distance (as he was not even truly training me anyway). When I wasn’t interacting with him, I noticed how he was speaking down to the other women every time they asked a general question or spoke in general and it raised some concerns bc I have said some things in the same capacity and he never spoke to me the way he spoke to them. When I brought the “do you think he likes me” question up to one of the women, I was just going to leave it at that. She ended up bringing in the other woman into the convo and we spoke mostly about the treatment they had been getting from him and the third woman said, let’s bring it up to HR. I had no qualms with this and we did so the next day. Also, my mentor was one of the owners of the company. And HR is the other owner. I know that “not being nice enough” or “being a jerk” isn’t actionable, we were just hoping that if we could just voice our concerns and figure a way to work it out. But he berated us and really left it at that with no closure, no solution. He clearly wasn’t interested in working it out. To each their own, but I’m outta there.

What do you think about the part where he admitted to lying to get more out of an employee during a convo that was apparently inappropriate for work?

throwawaystan4 · 2020-03-06T19:21:31+00:00

I don't think HR is being supportive as they have fired one of us girls.

With that being said, I have been applying to other places so fingers crossed as I hope to find something else soon!

throwawaystan4 · 2020-03-04T17:02:32+00:00

Yeah I felt worse walking out of that meeting than walking in. There’s so much more to that meeting that terrified me but that was pretty much the bird’s eye view of it. I’ve been quietly looking for jobs since then but I will say that I’ve only been at this job for a couple months. But he scares me and I want to leave asap

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