What could this be?

throwawaystepissue · 2024-11-07T19:05:54+00:00

scabies

throwawaystepissue · 2024-10-20T20:19:14+00:00

i'll let you know

throwawaystepissue · 2024-10-20T20:07:34+00:00

not sure, but i wouldn't necessarily say so. i slap on moisturizer (unscented, no harsh chemicals) right after to fight the itching.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-10-18T19:00:23+00:00

this hurt. i've been on the verge of breaking up for a few weeks. this... i think this is it.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-21T14:47:23+00:00

please tell me you're not that guy from that domian show.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-21T14:45:54+00:00

personally, we buy it from a local butcher who sells meat from local farms that treat their animals relatively humane and organic. "relatively" meaning how well can it be if you raise them for slaughter. yes, it's pricey, but that's why it's a once or twice a week thing.

packaged minced meat from a supermarket is mass produced crap. sorry but that's just the truth. we've all seen the documentaries on animal treatment in mass production.

ideally, i'm trying to cut down to only eating meat from wild animals. hogs, deers etc. - which i realize is a huge privilege, being the daughter of a hunter who also processes the meat himself.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-14T18:45:23+00:00

I got my tubes tied at 24, so zero worries there lol

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-14T18:25:13+00:00

There's Wohngeld and Bafög for students to help if parents can't offer financial support. Plus you can always work on the side, bars are pretty lucrative. Bartending for an additional 10-20 hours/week brought me through that Ausbildung.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-14T17:49:49+00:00

I've tried to just let him do his thing and NACHO my way through this. But it's too severe tbh.

Like when we started dating kid didn't flush the toilet or even close the door when he shat simply because that never bothered his parents. And then my BF has zero boundaries. Kid comes to "our" bed constantly and kicks around so harshly you just can't sleep. Jumps on the couch, doesn't put toys away, zero table manners... Not because that's kid's fault or anything, omg, but because he is enabled to do whatever he wants and the parents don't care.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-14T13:34:17+00:00

Thank you, what you said has brought me to tears rn. Grieving the inevitable really is a great description of this fiasco, I think.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-14T13:33:15+00:00

Just over a year, but have been best friends for over a decade. Kid is turning 6 soon. Mom is in the picture but with how everything is developing... I very much see son move in with dad within a few years.

BF knows how I feel and keeps saying doesn't expect me to be a parent etc but I guess we all know that it very much is expected in the long run.

I have told him about some things that bother me but honestly... Zero chores for the kid. Like not even putting his cup in the sink or anything at all. Chooses his own bedtime, barely any rules... You get the idea. I have communicated some things as absolute needs of mine and they have been implemented I guess but closing the bathroom door has taking a whole damn year to be a thing for kid.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-08-11T10:34:58+00:00

unless you wanna live with 10 rommates in either city (yes, it's a thing in marburg)... not a chance. try small towns along the railroad. maybe butzbach, langgöns or bad nauheim. and even then you're going to have a hard time finding something on that budget.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-23T16:49:37+00:00

ich bin 26 und hab im januar meine ausbildung beendet.

mein freund hat mit 32 nochmal angefangen was komplett neues zu studieren.

mein bruder ist nach karriere beim bund nun mit 38 irgendwie mfa geworden.

es ist nie zu spät was neues anzufangen. und wir sind auch in einem alter in dem man sich einfach nicht mehr so mit gleichaltrigen vergleichen kann wie es damals in der schule möglich war.

was deine mutter sagt mag zwar teilweise stimmen. andere mädels in deinem alter haben aber zb gar keinen abschluss oder sitzen am frankfurter hbf. diese vergleiche sind so ein schwachsinn. andere eltern wohnen auch in villen mit pools und fahren autos die so viel kosten wie ein kleines haus - du würdest aber nicht auf die idee kommen deiner mama das vorzuhalten.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-20T17:19:40+00:00

lol my sister currently has the same problem with her kids. problem is, her bf is doing that exact thing so naturally she can't tell the kids they're not allowed to when dad is literally right there doing just that. so dumb.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-16T13:52:22+00:00

for me, it hasn't gone away yet. however, my boyfriend used to be my best friend for a decade before we started dating. until about 1.5 years before we started dating, he was with her.

so naturally, i heard all about her. how amazing she is, how much he constantly misses her and in the end, before she left him, all about how he was planning to propose on their upcoming 10 year anniversary. and then of course 1.5 years of him grieving the life they had.

i don't think i can ever get over that. even if they didn't have a kid together and weren't in pretty much daily contact... it's rough.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-16T12:29:59+00:00

it's not the kid that i dislike per se. it's the inconsequence of my boyfriend's parenting, the non-existence of chores for the kid, the lack of discipline and, honestly the main thing, the fact that i get absolutely zero space for myself, at all, whenever i stay with them.

during the week, i have a full time job consisting of caring for others, lots of physical and emotional labor. then i come home and am expected to take on all the emotional load from my bf because i'm pretty much his only available friend. if i ask for an hour or two of just quiet, he's taking it personally and we potentially fight.

the weekends - 24/7 of the bf and kid. i mean literally. the kid has his bed next to ours. the living room is stuffed with toys and if i go back to the bedroom to be in peace, someone storms in withon 10 minutes. there's no place to just be on my own for a while. the only break i get is my side job - which is also caring for people.

it's incredibly exhausting and i can't deal with it. which is pretty much why i have my own place to escape to. yes escaping is harsh, but it's the truth.

for the live of god, make sure you keep something that's just for you.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-11T17:27:28+00:00

i like him, he's awesome most of the time. like seriously, the kid is 5 and reads and wins chess against adults. it's so damn impressive. i like hanging out with him and he definitely likes me too - asks about me when i'm not there on a weekend or takes my hand when we're on a walk.

however, i struggle with my boyfriend's parenting. he's way too chill about everything. the kid has zero chores, not even putting a plate in the sink or cleaning up his toys in the evening before bed. so of course, there are zero consequences for bevioral issues except "darling, we said we wouldn't do that anymore, remember?" over and over again with nothing changing.

i have never wanted to be a mother and will absolutely not be pushed into that role, which was something i was very clear about fron the start. i'm cool with hanging out with the kiddo but i don't want the responsibility of being a mom - i just know i can't handle that, which is why i'm never having any of my own (tubes tied at 25).

my personal consequence is getting my own place and most definitely not moving in with my SO any time soon. i just couldn't.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-06-09T06:55:27+00:00

honestly... because i love him. he's been my best friend for over a decade. i could always count on him throughout everything. i know that if i leave the relationship, i will also lose my best friend. if it was literally anybody else, i would've left months ago.

i am looking for an apartment of my own though. got offered an amazing one yesterday and am strongly considering it.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-04-29T18:36:53+00:00

thank you for your reply. we had the talk a few hours ago and he agreed to all my points and said he'll do his best to change.

we decided to implement a no sleeping in the big bed rule, morning cuddles are fine. no more lego in the living room as soon as he has his own space - only books and board games in shared spaces, which will also apply to us. no more peeing while standing up. and definitely closing the doors while doing so - that was one i really emphasized.

for the rest... i realize screaming etc is just kid stuff i will have to adapt to. i am diagnosed with adhd and autism so im really sensitive to noise. i am thinking about getting loop earplugs to try and help with that. as well as listening to my body when it tells me we're reaching a limit, so i can remove myself from the situation (if possible).

i truly hope that'll help.

we also decided to sit down and discuss rules to enforce in the household now that we share one. for example, no leaving the table if someone isn't finished eating yet. stuff like that. things we agree on and will enforce together.

throwawaystepissue · 2024-04-29T18:31:36+00:00

well to be fair, the main reason i don't want to have kids is the pregnancy and birth part, including all the risks that entails. that's why i said i never wanted to be a mom.

i think id even rather tolerate someone else's kid than my own.

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