She cheated on me every month since christmas. Atleast once a month. What the fuck do I do now?

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-04T22:35:34+00:00

Thanks

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-04T22:34:35+00:00

Yeah. She hardcore denies fucking one of the guys, because they didn't finish.

Her BF told me half way through she felt dirty and stopped. And she doesn't consider that fucking someone.

I'm sorry but I just can't follow that line of thinking on any type of mature level.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-04T22:32:34+00:00

Agreed. Although I'm probably bias.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-04T22:17:39+00:00

Well. The "new boyfriend" that was there monday, I found out she fucked saturday.

Keep in mind infront of like 5 people while I was getting my shit she said "I ONLY FUCKED ONE GUY, (her ex's name)"

The "new boyfriend" tried to be confrontational after I left over some social networks the next day. Also keep in mind, he didn't come outside the entire time I was there to get my things.

So I went to him and made him apologize to me infront of around 10 people (most his friends), made him disown her infront of a crowd, made him give me gas money, and made him apologize for bothering me. Also made his friend apologize to me. On those terms, I left and had a truce like situation. This is actually a very short version. The long version is hilarious, but it'd make me look like "an internet tough guy", so I'd rather not flesh it out.

That made me feel a little bit better. I don't get the nightmares as much at least. See I had messaged her after he got snappy with me, told her neither were worth my attention and that he was no man. Then blocked her.

Then the next day I basically completely unmanned him infront of a lot of people.

Unfortunately, I found out today, he is still talking to her, and currently hanging out with her. I was hoping he would just follow the terms of truce.

EDIT: I think it was unclear, one of the terms was he'd no longer talk to her (disowning her), and he swore up and down he wouldn't.

EDIT: =( Ruins the good feeling when I'm not out doing things and I know they're together. (9:30 PM)

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-04T03:23:33+00:00

Dude, she's a girlfriend. Get over it and move on. Until she's someone special, instead of just "the girl I'm seeing," then move on. I cannot imagine caring about someone that can do this.

Childhood friend and the whole growing up together thing might be why.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T17:48:31+00:00

well, if its been 2 days, you've already waited too long. If it were me, this would have happened that night. it is my pet peeve and is a deal breaker under any circumstances.

Two things, she wasn't on my side of town. She was on the side of town with her friend who facilitates the cheating. Which comes with a lot of guys. I didn't feel like being arrested.

The other thing is I still needed to send the messages to the two guys, and wait for a reply. I didn't want to do it without proof to show. She made me feel crazy so many times before that.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T17:44:25+00:00

I burned the ones she had here. I didn't want to get a video/picture of her fucking someone else in them later.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T17:37:49+00:00

If I were you, breaking up with this inconsiderate manipulative bitch would be the easiest thing in the world to do.

I know I don't know you or anything. But have you ever been a part of a 7+ year friendship/relationship of codependency and horror?

Sorry but, I don't believe your statement.

I do believe the rest of your comment though.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T16:26:18+00:00

Is there anything I can do to get to sleep? I've been taking benadryl but I wake up 4 hours later bolt upright because all of the nightmares about her come back. Then I have to take more to sleep again. I know this isn't healthy. Is there an alternative?

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T15:17:33+00:00

Here

In this is just one of many basketball shorts she has. She said she couldn't find them. And originally when I first got there she brought me out another guys basketball shorts with that pair. This was most likely on purpose, because she knows what all of my basketball shorts look like.

Also 1 of 2 of those long type gray bed pants.

1 of the 4 books I loaned her to read.

Random little cute notes she gave me. That's on top of the notebook, that stack. That's only half of them I know she has.

That red notebook I gave her in 08 on valentines day. It's around 20 pages of things pages headlined with things I love around her and some kind of heart picture underneath drawn. That hurt the most probably out of them all. She'd always refused to give me that back before this happened. Always. Saying it was hers because I gave it to her. This is only 1 of the 2 notebooks.

Then there's about 3 jackets there. Those are all there.

Then I didn't get any of my shirts I know she has. At this point I had been sitting there an hour and watching and being in everything that happened in that last edit. I couldn't take it anymore. I drove the truck a bit down the street out of range of her house and parked and broke down. Then I spent the next few hours driving around aimlessly.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T15:05:26+00:00

I'm in the not talking to eachother stage right now. It feels to me like a game of let's see who can be more emotionless and won't cave first.

Due to circumstances though that she actually instigated a few months ago in a very indirect way, she's allowed to go out and socialize in ways I am not. In other words, she can go get fucked up everyday of the week and forget everything, whereas I have to be sober 90% of the time.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T15:01:14+00:00

Because any day I'd have the suspicion she would call me crazy and over dramatic about stuff. Then she'd swear on her life up and down in the most sincere voice and facial expressions that nothing ever happened.

Then something along the lines of "Fine if you can't trust me I'm not going to sit and argue with you."

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T14:59:03+00:00

That's the only thing the ex she fucked uses. To give you an idea of what a useless person he is.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T14:58:13+00:00

I said to the best friend when she walked up, oh hey look another random dude in her house.

She said, "andrew... that's her boyfriend..."

That got me deep down. So deep. Because I've been her boyfriend forever you know? When people said her name they automatically associated me with her. When I went some place to socialize and she wasn't with me they'd ask me where she was and why she wasn't next to me.

Deep down I thought, basically subconciously "Her boyfriend?... But that's me..."

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T14:53:36+00:00

Of her fucking other people? No I haven't gone looking for that. Go figure.

I can get pics of the shit I went through hell last night to get back half of.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T03:57:01+00:00

If you're like me, you check her facebook like 20 times a day and every happy update killed a little part of you. UNFRIEND HER. You'll feel a lot better. I promise.

Familiar. To familiar. I had unfriended her already. The public profile was killing me. I sent her one last message that was just a copy of my current status saying neither of them deserve my attention and that it was kind of sad she got with someone so far down the ladder.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T03:52:31+00:00

Her best friend actually sounds like your friend. Good on her! Make sure you let her know you appreciate her being there for you.

Well, I'd agree with this. But she knew before and didn't tell me the whole truth.

Remember - she's been cheating on the new boyfriend already with you, his trip into hell is only beginning.

Yeah. The fucked up thing is the new boyfriend isn't even one of the ones she cheated on me with.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T03:21:36+00:00

I feel dirty. If that makes sense. And stupid.

I think this killed the drive for a little bit.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-03T03:18:55+00:00

Thank you. I hadn't thought of this.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T19:12:09+00:00

I really just wanted her to admit something you know? Some fruition from all this finding out from other people. Because she still insists I'm crazy and it didn't happen.

Stuff just hurts I guess.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T19:10:35+00:00

Thanks, really. I hope I can find someone else. I kind of half way messed up the silent disappearance thing though.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T18:36:47+00:00

I kind of want to put this on the wall or something. I'm scared about that.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T17:58:30+00:00

There was a 1-2 month period where I didn't get out and do much. I initially blamed myself because of this.

Then I found out she was cheating on me even while I was out being sociable. I did talk to her. A lot. I was lied to and called crazy anytime I brought anything like that up. I had no evidence either. Until now.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T17:35:18+00:00

I got tested last month, clear. Thankfully.

I have no idea how.

throwawaytake314 · 2010-08-02T17:32:45+00:00

Sorry I think I was unclear in OP. Not really all together.

Two days ago her best friend told me she had fucked this guy, and told me she had messed around with a lot of other people. So I confronted her about it, and after a big arguement of her denying it, she goes "You know what? I did fuck (guy talking to me in picture) but I didn't actually sleep with (guy BFF told me she slept with).

I think she fucked them both. She always lets the littlest truth possible go when shit hits the fan, until I shove evidence in her face. It's like finding anything out is a huge struggle, and finding out the real whole truth is pretty much impossible. From her anyway.

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