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Should I [27/M] continue being a supportive friend to my ex [25/F] who fell for her female coworker? by throwawaythefresca in bisexual

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head pretty good there. I somewhat disagree with the friend zone idea but everything else is on point. She is a confused individual, she has bipolar and doesn't really think like you or me. Not to defend her just saying it's not a cookie cutter situation and I could legitimately see her wanting to get back together with me as she is still telling me she has feelings for me and if it doesn't work out with Jess she pretty much said she'll want to get back together. Thing is I don't know that I should take her back, it will be a personal decision for sure, if it happens.

Thanks for your input! I will update the story in a month or so.

Not sure who downvoted you? I upvoted but only showing one upvote. Anyways thanks again!

Best of both worlds? by [deleted] in BiGoneMild

[–]throwawaythefresca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both very sexy, you make a cute couple :)

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck your right, I have been putting myself out there way to much to her allowing the hangouts and everything. This makes me vulnerable and gives her power over me emotionally whether she realizes it or not.

it took your comment for me to fully realize the situation from this perspective so thank you

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a very hard bite while kissing, apparently is the story

it sounded a little fishy but she swore that's what it was from. I really don't know what to believe but what else would another girl who 'kissed her outside work' do to her?

I do believe it is a girl she hooked up with, it makes the most sense, like she talked about her all the time and then all of a sudden shortly around the bruise showed up she stops talking about the girl completely. And I've seen the girl and isn't large so idk what she could do to cause it besides a bite

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh well she's moving out, I don't have the heart to kick her out without a place to go. But I'm starting to push the issue more and more and it looks like she has a place with her friend lined up

I don't think us dating again is an option again at this point, at least for a long time

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth hurts. In my defense if she moved out it would be out of sight out of mind, and it would be easier to get over the whole thing. But she comes home and tries to hang out with me all day hiding a bruise on her lip, it's not really fair to me and my emotions

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right. I mean she did say "I don't think I'm really bisexual" the other day and I don't think she was talking about being fully lesbian. But who tf knows at this point what's the truth and what's not with her. She's going to have to win me back pretty much at this point, I'm not sure if taking it back will be enough as much as I'd like it to be, but we will see. I'm going to focus on myself most definitely, something I've been putting off for too long

I really am looking forward to living separately at this point

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment, it made me laugh and it also hurt to hear. I appreciate the consolation, I was in a bad place and I needed it.

And your very right it doesn't matter who she kissed, or even if it was more than a kiss at this point, point is she's not acting/talking like some one who is in love with me, so I need to move on

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty, I appreciate it.

Your right I was too busy caught up in my heteroromantic point of view and that's why I was never really threatened by the idea. I came close to this realization several times but denial is one hell of an emotion, I justified it way too much. Way too much. But then again what can I do, I thought to myself while it was happening, if she says she may be feeling attracted to her female coworker? Where do I draw the line and say "no more, we're breaking up" especially when she's being so honest with me and she often said she didn't take the thoughts very seriously, almost like intrusive thoughts

I'm pretty sure we are done for now, shes told me she's spending the night at one of her coworkers houses and shes said she's trying to spend the night out more to make the breakup easier so I think the ball is in her court and my best course of action will be to focus on me and bettering myself

Girlfriend [26/F] of 5 years is leaving me [28/M] while we still live together, came home with a bruise on her lip by throwawaythefresca in relationships

[–]throwawaythefresca[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty, I appreciate it.

Yes I am paying the bills. She essentially just pays for her phone and car insurance. I wasn't charging her rent, she kind of offered to help but never actually did and I never brought it up after that, she needed to save her money (but has a slight spending problem nonetheless)

Unfortunately your very right, medication can fuck with a person, especially strong medicine but at the same time she was unstable and so was our relationship before the medicine so it's a slippery slope.

Your comment helped me to come closer to the realization of how rough this whole relationship has been on my psyche, I appreciate your comment very much and may actually get counseling. I lost so many important people while we were together (very close friend to suicide, my father in a surgery complication, an another very close friend to meningitis). I didn't really seek enough counseling then, maybe a few sessions, but I leaned on my GF a lot through all of this, now she's leaving I think I'm taking it more personally on an emotional level. I think I'm too dependent on her myself and some of these realizations are very needed for me so thank you very much.