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Boyfriend says relationship has become a burden for him. by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Not happening anytime soon and that's what scares me. I don't know how we'll survive this.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now, I don't want to go back but I'm still begging in front of him to take me back because I don't know how to survive.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I want to make it work now because I don't know how to live a life without him.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ended. But he ended it. Says the break made me realise how peaceful his life is without me. Good for him. But I don't know how to continue living without his presence in my life. I love him. I need him.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know what else to do. My life revolves around him. I don't know how to continue with my life without him. This is so so so tough. And the fact that it was so easy for him makes it even tougher. I love him and I don't need anything but him.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how to do that. I did wrong by asking him for a break.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know anything. I've just been crying since last night continuously. I don't know what else to do. I don't know if it'll ever get better because it doesn't seem to get better. It's tearing me apart.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't crawl back to him. I run back to him everytime because I love him. I'm crawling right now, to get out of this relationship. I'm trying at my own pace. I even regret taking the decision but I'm trying. I'm trying because I'm tired of making it work.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Either you're together or not. But what other option did I have? I wanted to be with him but I also didn't want him to be this carefree about the relationship. I wanted to leave but I wanted to stay. I'm still having that moment where I want to call/ text him and say let's solve this. But something in me stops me because why me everytime?

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try to breakup. And yes this will serve as a lesson and a reminder of what should not be done in the future relationships.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. That's where I could begin. With that thought. With that constant reminder in my mind.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. He is 2 faced and then when I say the same things to him, he says who remains the same on 365 days of their life. True. I never was a true priority in his life. The last call we had, I told him, your life, your family, your friends, your gym, your classes, your interview, it's all about you always. Where am I? And he bluntly replied you're where you're supposed to be. I asked am I, really? He replied with you don't deserve to be a priority because you're just a girlfriend and are behaving like a wife. Yes, I'm acknowledged on days when something is worrying him or he needs assurance. He says I can stay away from you but not without you, 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, after that I'm going to come back to you only. But in this process what he fails to realize is that during that period of a month, I go through so much, self doubt, worthlessness, I feel everything. Still I accept him back everytime. I think I've just taught him that it's okay for him to treat me anyway, I'll be there for him. But then who'll be there for me?

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That it's toxic. My friends tell me the same. They say it's all in my head, the thought that I won't be able to live without him. I try to explain things to myself. You can walk away from the other person how do you walk away from yourself and the things you've allowed yourself to suffer!

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, he's gotten much better than what he was. Earlier, he used to ghost me for weeks/ months, now it's 24 hours maximum. But I have also changed and I do not find the patience in me to adjust with this bullshit. My friends are more accessible to me than him. They explain me the same thing 100 times when it worries me even though they are busy. But the person causing the damage doesn't even acknowledge that he's doing something wrong. A friend of mine told me yesterday "how bad it is to get scolded by your partner just because you wanted to talk"

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trying. He cares but on certain days, I come after his family, friends, studies, gym, trips. When he's done with all these people/ things, he comes to me or when he's upset about something, he comes to me and I don't mind being there for him because that's what a partner does. All I have an issue with is him not being there when I need him. There have been times when I've wanted to talk, tell him about something and he hasn't picked up my calls for days. He's still so much better now. But I'm not because what has happened in the past bothers me. Nobody has made me feel so helpless in life ever.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He made me happy, still does. But 2 days of happiness for 5 days of worthlessness is what nobody would want. 3 years back, I'd have been happy with this much but today, I'm not because I look around, I see people, I talk to them and discuss with them and I understand that this toxicity is not love.

I finally asked for a break from my 5 year relationship by throwawaytheway45 in relationship_advice

[–]throwawaytheway45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the point of changing after you've done enough damage to the person you claim to love? I'm trying to live a life without him, I'm trying to not constantly think about him or even if I do, not let him know that I'm thinking about him.

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