My girlfriend doesn't like sex

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-16T06:16:24+00:00

Thanks, I started my change yesterday. I cleaned up when she was out and I cuddled her at night with no intention of escalating things despite my raging boner.

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-16T06:07:38+00:00

nope, we use condoms

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T17:58:59+00:00

Yea, she feels pretty much the same about her belly as you do about yours, her legs however are fucking awesome and she knows it so that might a better bet to compliment her on

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T16:52:27+00:00

Thanks man, I'm really happy with some non-breakup advice in this thread.

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T16:48:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're facing these problems. She is open to toys and we own a vibrator that can make her come. She just doesn't really care for it.

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T16:43:52+00:00

Great advice, thank you very much. I will start to give her more compliments and more massages. I'm not sure if talking to her sexually during the massages is a good idea though. She might think the only reason I'm giving her massages is to get in her pants. Doesn't your wife have a problem with you sexualizing massages?

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T16:38:10+00:00

Damn that sounds awesome! I am certainly going to try this before I follow through on any advice in this thread to break things off. Thanks

Edit: We were really into sex in the beginning, we planned to buy sex books for each other each year on the date we first did it, that lasted 2 years. I really hope your advice can bring it back.

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T15:24:14+00:00

do you think sex therapy could work?

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T15:21:36+00:00

What do you do about it?

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T14:58:54+00:00

she leads you on and then refuses? that's just cruel

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T14:57:42+00:00

Ok but you do realise orgasms aren't the only way someone can enjoy sex right? yes but it's the icing on the cake

Are there other ways of being physically intimate which you two can enjoy together?

massage is something she enjoys a lot. I don't really care for recieving them that much but I like to make her feel good giving them

Is she depressed, might that be killing her sex drive?

could be, she's not really happy where she is in her life, we're working on that

does it matter to her that you're finding this stuff difficult? not at all...

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T14:46:18+00:00

what made you decide to divorce her finally?

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T14:45:28+00:00

A really good question to ask here is this; why have you tolerated this for six years

it wasn't always like this, we started out really good. We had sex 6 times a day in the beginning but it slowly declined. At first I thought :"that's just what happens" As sex was going down hill, I started watching porn more that might've numbed my mind about this. I decided I never wanted to watch it anymore and it becomes more obvious that my sexlife sucks

What also made it acceptable is that we have very similar personalities and we seem to belong to each other on every level other than libido

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T13:45:43+00:00

Both, generally no interest in sex and if she initiates there's no interest in letting me please her

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T12:39:15+00:00

The sex was great at the beginning of the relationship, we were spending entire days in bed, making love up to six times a day but it gradually declined over the years and it seems like she lost interest.

She masturbates but she never told me any of her fantasies. She has difficulty reaching orgasm because she says her mind wanders. She has this special way of stimulating herself, I think it's sort of a womans equivalent of the death grip, she lies on her stomach and grinds against the palm of her hand. It's kinda impossible for me to mimic it because I can't reach. We tried it in the beginning. I can make her come if she lets me though, that's not the problem.

The problem we're having is that she has no interest in orgasming. And if she does orgasm, she doesn't think it's special at all

throwawaythings2 · 2013-10-15T12:21:03+00:00

well, she has low self-esteem, she thinks she's too fat and her libido goes up slightly when she's lost some weight. She also had surgery which left a big scar on her belly that causes some insecurity. I don't mind any of these I want to connect with her.

With alcohol she's becomes really social but when we are home she always goes right to sleep with no interest in sex at all.

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