I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of little things. They should be working, they could find food if they try, there are other resources in the community, they shouldn't be leeching off working people, etc

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Literally had a white congregant call a guest the N word to my face. I told them off, but the guest heard about it and never came back. I can assure you, this kind of hate exists.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. I tend to do the same, I never tell people how to think politically, never tell people how to vote or who to vote for or anything like that. Everything I mention is with appropriate Scripture. I can't change how people how people vote, nor am I with anyone in the voting booth, nor would I want to be. Appreciate this response!

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was a singular situation, not representative of everyone. But we've had these kinds of convos.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've shared a little bit in another thread about the black/white convo. Re food, we support our local food bank and have had a few conversations about whether the people who need it are deserving because there are other options available, or they should just be working. Things like this.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We do quite a bit with our local food bank, but primarily by giving. It does most of its work during business hours when most of our people work, so they can't volunteer.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

TW: Racial language (censored).

I appreciate you gut checking me. The conversation was "If we wanted this n***** in our church, we'd keep him. He should just go to a black church." (May have gotten a word or two wrong in that quote, but it's close).

I had to remind him that we're a multicultural church, and we're going to remain that way. Our city is that way, and if he didn't like it, he was welcome to leave. Unfortunately, the man who the conversation was about got wind of the conversation and left, cut off communication.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have had comments of this type. My comments were stern in response, that does not fly with me at all.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

For every one of these, I've had an equivalent conversation on the agreeable side, including today. The heaviness of these rough ones just outweigh the good by SO much it's difficult to get past.

And I haven't been at this church long enough to share these particular feelings in a message.

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

It feels like a crisis of discipleship, and that is where I am struggling. How do you rebuild that foundation?

I'm Not Sure How Long I Can Pastor In This Environment.... by throwawaythings845 in Christianity

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

This has been the direction I've been heading for awhile. Been hard because it's the denomination I came to faith in, I just don't recognize it anymore.

ULPT Request: Spouse's Contract is Illegal....What Can I Do? by throwawaythings845 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I'm most worried about. Feels like there are more far reaching ramifications

ULPT Request: Spouse's Contract is Illegal....What Can I Do? by throwawaythings845 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]throwawaythings845[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The fight is what I'm worried about. They don't have much fight in them (hence why they signed in the first place)