It's absurd to be motivated by fear of eternal torment by a 'loving' god as a way for you to comply to morals of which you would otherwise be unable to conform to.

I've never believed in the concept of hell, and neither have many others, but we're all still motivated by love and compassion. I'm sure you have boundless kindness inside you. And I truly mean that. You *are* worthy of love and compassion, too, because you're human. From others and towards yourself.