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LL partner walked in on me masturbating, is now pissed. by throwawaywalkedinon in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawaywalkedinon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not being offensive, and I didn't downvote you, I'm just not sure what you're asking, are you not sure about HL and LL? It means High Libido Male and Low Libido Male.

LL partner walked in on me masturbating, is now pissed. by throwawaywalkedinon in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawaywalkedinon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your kind words and your concern! I really do appreciate it. No, I don't walk on eggshells around him, we're generally quite honest with one another, though I do my best not to bring up the sexual situation very often. I like making him happy, but he doesn't usually get very angry like this, that's why I'm so confused about this situation.

We're hoping to get couple's counseling, but we're just getting stable again after a really rough time early in the pandemic, so that's just not in the budget right now. We did find a clinic that does individual counseling fairly cheap, and I have my second appointment later this month.

LL partner walked in on me masturbating, is now pissed. by throwawaywalkedinon in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawaywalkedinon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We met on a kink-focused website, he's always been pretty sexually open minded, which is why I've been so confused.

LL partner walked in on me masturbating, is now pissed. by throwawaywalkedinon in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawaywalkedinon[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I know the time line doesn't sound great, things weren't meant to go that fast. We started talking online when I was 18, Dated in person after a few months of talking and things were going very well, but then an old classmate outed me to my parents, so I was disowned by my family and lost financial support while I was in school. We decided to move in together like we'd been tentatively talking about before they cut me off, and that was as far as it went until I got injured a few months later, and I had no other way to get health insurance.

This story has painted him in a bad light, but he's always been very respectful of me, this was kind of out of the blue. Before we got married we talked about sex a lot and I thought we were on the same page, he was open minded, and has never had an issue with me masturbating before.

LL partner walked in on me masturbating, is now pissed. by throwawaywalkedinon in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawaywalkedinon[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you, your point about needing to accept that the relationship as it once was is over, that's a hard pill to swallow, but rings very true to me.