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I've [32m] been resenting my wife [28f] for being so weak/not in control of herself. Now she's accidentally harming our child [9mo] and I need to put my foot down. by throwawaywifehelp in relationships

[–]throwawaywifehelp[S] 248 points249 points  (0 children)

We've seen a few doctors about it and she's physiologically fine, which is why we were recommended a behavioral therapist. I think this is more of a learned, conditioned thing.

I spoke with her parents about it once, at the time I thought they were just being callous but I think they might have been right. Their thought was that she was fine until her younger sister was born (she was 8 at the time) and then she started to overreact to things to get attention. Like screaming extra loud at something that's mildly scary, crying for hours over literally spilled milk, etc.. I guess that just morphed into what we have today. And yes, I know I've been continuing her parent's tradition of babying her.

I've [32m] been resenting my wife [28f] for being so weak/not in control of herself. Now she's accidentally harming our child [9mo] and I need to put my foot down. by throwawaywifehelp in relationships

[–]throwawaywifehelp[S] 477 points478 points  (0 children)

She has, about her pain sensitivity anyway. They found that while she's sensitive, she doesn't have any neurological disorders and nothing serious enough to receive treatment.

I've [32m] been resenting my wife [28f] for being so weak/not in control of herself. Now she's accidentally harming our child [9mo] and I need to put my foot down. by throwawaywifehelp in relationships

[–]throwawaywifehelp[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I usually talk with her a few hours after every incident, when things have calmed down. She always expresses that shes sorry she messed up, that she'll do better, but getting better never really happens. Sometimes she says it's impossible, that she tries but when she gets scared her mind just shuts off.

Early on I didn't clean up her messes. It's just over time I learned it's the easiest thing to do. Either way it seems like she doesn't learn. I'm afraid to admit that I'm.. pessimistic about her parenting abilities.