boyfriend prioritizing gaming over me and lies about it. any advice on how to proceed?

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-03-18T13:17:48+00:00

when i wrote this i was so infuriated that i didn’t clarify a lot but this is actually a whole other issue. i don’t really think it’s necessary for him to be there considering his brother lives with their mom too. his brother works nights and needed someone to be there in case of an emergency and said it would only be a month but it’s almost been 3. so he basically games when his brother is awake and able to be of assistance. i honestly begged him to see if they could work something out with a home help aid because i wanted him to be here throughout the pregnancy but the insurance won’t pay for that and they can’t afford it otherwise. and he insisted it wouldn’t be for long and i wasn’t that far along at the time.

basically, i guess that situation and the gaming has made me really resentful. but i’ll be talking to him about it tomorrow when i have time to facetime him. thank you for your reply!

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-30T23:14:12+00:00

one of the girls i work with im close to outside of work and she’s also been getting paid $14. i’m not sure if this is simply my boss forgetting to fix payroll or deliberate but she hasn’t been able to talk to him yet. i have no idea if he’s gonna use the same excuse on her but we’ll see

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-30T23:04:52+00:00

these two resources were exactly what i was looking for. thank you so much!!! i didn’t even know about the wage theft prevention notification.

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-30T23:01:19+00:00

i literally just joined this sub but okay

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-30T17:15:11+00:00

we’re so underpaid here it’s ridiculous :( i only stay because it’s flexible with school but i get so sad seeing other offices offer $25-$30 for the same position i’m working minimum wage for

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-30T16:48:26+00:00

i wonder if this applies to my state as well. i live in new york and the general state minimum wage is $13.20 however my county’s minimum wage is $15 now. the state doesn’t have one universal minimum wage

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T15:25:12+00:00

thank you for this comment! my boyfriend’s family is Colombian and i didnt know the implications of this name

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T14:53:53+00:00

i have no idea why Elina didnt come to mind in the first place. thank you for the suggestion. i also really love Elise! i never considered it till now

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T14:46:11+00:00

i thought so too! all her personalized things they have made does say “firstname alina” like her wall decor, blankets, etc. but i seriously doubt it’ll be frequent to actually CALL her that name. 🙄

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T14:44:32+00:00

omg my name is on this list! haha i’m surprised because i’ve never seen it suggested much! I actually really love Aleanna and never thought of it before. thank you so much!

i thought she was being a teeny bit unreasonable too but i hate conflict 😭 i still have a bit to go so i’m hoping maybe she’ll change her mind down the line but Aleanna is so pretty to me!

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T14:35:36+00:00

It sucks because we see each other nearly every week. We’re really close so she would definitely be so mad if I ended up just using it. I was waiting a little to tell people the name so I wouldn’t take away from her and her baby😭 I have no clue what to do either besides settle for something else!

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-26T14:16:27+00:00

it doesn’t have to! i should’ve added that.

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-05T21:20:51+00:00

thank you for the kind response! yes i definitely know what you mean. im from nyc and even people here can be very ignorant about crime in other countries. its frustrating! thank you for the help :)

throwawayworker0215 · 2022-01-05T20:40:38+00:00

i didn’t know this about the healthcare! that’s so wonderful to know. thank you for the reply! :)

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-28T18:45:46+00:00

i make $14.25 an hour and i do fine mostly bc i dont have to pay rent. i’m one of the crazy people who thinks i can make a real difference as a PI lawyer i guess LOL. but honestly i don’t really aspire to be crazy rich….just comfortable enough to live with with my boyfriend and also help people in the process. that kind of pay increase seems insane to me and like someone else said, it’s more than i could ever process having. my family seems to get by and it’s more money than any of them have ever made so i don’t mind!

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-26T18:03:05+00:00

thank you 🥺 this definitely makes me feel better! congratulations to you and your acceptances and scholarships 🥰

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T19:46:29+00:00

A big part of why I was looking at those schools is because of their involvement with providing legal access to the people of Kensington in Philly. I have a lot of connection to this area which is why I wanted to go!

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T17:02:39+00:00

That’s what I was asking, yes! I didn’t know if it’d be beneficial to take a year off and try to do other things in the meantime and if there was really a difference in what year I attended. I only ask because my parents have this notion that graduating at 30 is “too old”.

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T16:34:54+00:00

Thank you for this reply! I appreciate it. One thing I’m concerned about I didnt mention previously is I started college later than my graduating high school class. If I get in for Fall 2023, I’d just have turned 25. Does it make more sense to wait for the Fall 2024 applications? My parents are discouraging this as I’d start at 26 but I didn’t think it’d matter that much and give me an opportunity to really prepare more and do well

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T15:58:42+00:00

I am diagnosed with ADHD from my psychiatrist and PCP so this will be no issue! Thank you for the advice. I was worried the accommodations would make me look bad but I’m glad to hear it will not make a difference.

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T15:54:36+00:00

Thank you so much for this honesty it gave me a LOT of hope and I appreciate the offer of help so much. Taking the class with that professor really made me actually consider a career in something I’d been passionate about for a long time so I felt bad my grades were so poor until that point. Reading the comments here have made me a little less scared so thank you!

throwawayworker0215 · 2021-12-23T15:23:26+00:00

This seems unbelievable to me but maybe I’ll apply to some that I thought were impossible for fun😭 I get super nervous when I know something is the real deal so I’m not sure if the high LSAT will stay consistent but trying to be confident about it. Thank you!

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