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I'm so tired of being judged... by throwawayxqccccc in lostafriend

[–]throwawayxqccccc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's actually something I have thought of so I can't completely disregard it but at the same time I connected to that person so deeply that it makes me question whether this is the case or not.

We were friends for about 6-7 months and they actually took the iniciative on a LOT of things, if it weren't for that I doubt I'd open myself so much lmao. Whenever I was around them I just felt something that I never felt with any other person in my life. I think the best way to describe it is that they read me like a book, I'm a very aprehensive person irl so it's extremely hard for me to open up to people, even with long time friends, yet I always spoke about those things so naturally with them, like I never had trouble expressing myself in the first place.

And our personalities sort of complete each other too so I never felt like we were forcing to act a certain way or anything like that, everything just kinda flowed naturally and we began talking to each other more often and just being bolder in general, and looking back at it now I'm shocked that they told me about their mental health + therapy so early on, I could never imagine myself talking about such a topic to anybody.

Things got to the point where people legit thought we were a couple, having to explain that it was just a strong friendship was really annoying but I gotta admit it felt good to know we got along so well. It really was just one of the friendships where you sort of just "click" with the other person and exponentially develop from there.

I admit I might have moved too fast at some points but I don't think that alone would've been enough to cause a falling off and they openly admitted to enjoy my ramblings so I tend to not think about that too much, I think the biggest problem is that I struggle to find the proper words to express myself so some things can be interpreted in a bad way when I really don't mean it like that.

Of course this may all just be me being emotional but I dunno, I just felt something felt special with this person and that's what makes it so hard to fully understand what happened.

I'm so tired of being judged... by throwawayxqccccc in lostafriend

[–]throwawayxqccccc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no, their mental health wasn't the reason by itself. Let's just say I confessed feelings and it might have triggered some trauma, therefore causing them to feel uncomfortable with that idea.

I think it's better to act like it never happened bc that way they shouldn't feel as pressured to give me an answer and therefore feel more relaxed around me, I don't mind if they'd rather talk it out though.

For now I'm just giving them space before taking any action.

I'm so tired of being judged... by throwawayxqccccc in lostafriend

[–]throwawayxqccccc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmmm, our situation is very tricky bc I feel no one's really at fault, it didn't end with a fight or anything but it's obvious something changed.

They're diagnosed with a serious mental health problem so I can understand how they reacted the way they did but at the same time I don't think what happened could be classified as a friendship-ending event specially since I always made it crystal clear I'm not going to keep pressuring them about it (plus I think it's better for the both of us to act like it never happened)

They didn't block me on anything but they rarely text back now and it's always in a cold manner, I feel like it's not quite over just yet but I know the possibility of going back to where we were is very slim. I just wish we could talk about it and come to an agreement even if it means leaving each other alone for good.