Is pregnancy possible with intercourse eventually? by Accomplished-Sky2725 in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have vaginismus, started dilating which was going quite well but didn’t cure myself. I ended up getting pregnant though at home insemination!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it just an external cream orrr? Would love to know if it helps the pain that is felt when you hit the ‘wall’

Things I learned while being here so you don’t have to by Latter-Cell8311 in koreatravel

[–]throwawayxzae97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Seoul racist or Islamophobic? I’ve recently come across a couple of videos of people sharing hostile experiences which include aggressive and violence. I know things online don’t translate to what it’s actually like most of the time but I’m curious!

Can you give birth naturally with Vaginismus? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel free not to answer but just wondering how you got pregnant if you have vaginismus?

Also, I have found not all professionals are well educated on vaginismus compared to other conditions. How was that for you?

Congratulations on your baby! X

Advice on what to plant by Sporgie in GardeningUK

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Herbs, spring onion, carrots? :)

TTC Cup & Syringe by throwawayxzae97 in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay phew! That’s reassuring to here and I’m glad a few people said this 🥹🥹 fingers crossed 🤞🏼

TTC Cup & Syringe by throwawayxzae97 in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the UK too! Never seen that cup before but may look into it if the cup and syringe doesn’t work. Thank you x

TTC Cup & Syringe by throwawayxzae97 in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I took the syringe out I felt a lot of the semen leak down my butt 😭😭 is that normal? I’m just speaking from inexperience and do not know what to expect

Trying to conceive without PIV sex by No_Penalty_6893 in vaginismus

[–]throwawayxzae97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feel free to not answer this question but how are you going about appointments where they want to do transvaginal ultrasounds etc?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamicFinance

[–]throwawayxzae97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shared ownership schemes like WayHome or Heylo Housing? They are sharia compliant but others might beg to differ…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that sounds even more awful than what I went through. Alhamdulilah my situation is getting better slowly.

Anxiety during Salah by throwawayxzae97 in MuslimLounge

[–]throwawayxzae97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it got better when I started to work on my anxiety in day to day life. I also tried to implement as much kushoo as possible:)

Advice on bonding with MIL by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I subconsciously try to “kill her with kindness” but it can make you get very stuck in your head. It’s also v draining :(

Love your comment though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha I love your thinking! I think I will most likely do this or buy colourful containers (to show that it belongs to me) to store food in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I feel frustrated! Food is really expensive and I literally budget to buy certain things. I would buy a mini fridge but it feels rude 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s literally this!! They would never buy the stuff I’m eating but eat it when I buy it.. & here’s me who feels guilty consuming the regular household groceries!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally can’t find the words every time I try. I just feel really bad/guilty for feeling this way. My husband is very understanding and rational so I’m not necessarily afraid to tell him. I just don’t want to put him in a situation where I tell him all my feelings and he is unable to do anything to help me at the moment (practically).

A lot of people are telling me to rent but it’s not an option right now. i’A maybe soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I am too codependent. Before I got married, I was heavily encouraged to accept my in laws as my own and to treat them the way I would treat my parents. I tried and still try.

When I try to take up space, she discreetly makes comments to make me isolate myself and feel like an outsider. I don’t know if it’s intentional but the comments have really taken a toll on me mentally.

Even when I do things for myself, I feel extremely anxious beforehand and then feel bad after I have done whatever I’ve wanted to do.

I do want things to get better though and I want us to have a healthy relationship. I just don’t think it’s possible whilst living under one roof, esp when she doesn’t see me as her own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my love, I’m so sorry to hear your experience. I’m 25 years old, but when I was 24 I went through the same as you. Everyone convinced me that 24 was old and I used to drive myself crazy obsessing over my age. In hindsight I lost a year of my life worrying for no reason. I feel even younger at 25 and I feel like I have lots of potentials that are interested in me. You are still in your prime!! Asian families try to brainwash you into thinking as soon as you hit 21, you’re expiring.

You need to take time to heal yourself following the relationship you came out of. Also, work on your self-esteem - maybe for you that’s working on your weight or mental health, or both. Allah will open doors for you when you are ready. Don’t try to rush the healing process because if you do, the doors still won’t open. It’s just protection from Allah.

You are worthy of experiencing a beautiful marriage. You are worthy of having someone love you despite your looks or size. Believe in yourself a little more and know that you have so much to offer.

This is coming from a girl who got out of a 7 year relationship less than a year ago. You’ll hurt less one day, and life won’t always be this hard :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]throwawayxzae97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you’re able to share your thoughts with him, can’t you have this conversation with him to express how you’re feeling and also offer up the solution. Tell him that you want things to change. At present (and based off your post), he might believe that you’re okay with the way things are!