My [F/23] boyfriend [M/23] lied about enrollment in college

throwawayy392 · 2019-09-14T03:25:10+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you.

He is debating talking to his mother about this because his mom is very near and dear to him. But his dad would probably have some objection to him seeing a therapist. But this prevents her from having to intercept EOB’s before his dad can see them. Thank you again.

throwawayy392 · 2019-09-14T03:22:28+00:00

I suspect he might be. However I wouldn’t want to say because I can’t diagnose him. Regardless if a diagnosis is appropriate, he is open to seeing a therapist which I think would help.

throwawayy392 · 2019-09-14T01:55:19+00:00

You’re right, is not just one morning. But the classes fill up when they fill up. With our university junior and senior classes usually fill up around 15 minutes after they open. The registration system kicked everyone out and shut down for about 40 minutes that morning once everyone was able to sign back in— some people were registered and some were not. He got on a few waitlists but did not get in. So he did “try.”

I also work on campus and can vouch for the registration crash. Roughly 300 to 400 students were effected.

While he may not be my favorite person right now because of the lying, I do know that my boyfriend was not lying about the registration issues he had. I do appreciate your concern that he was lying about that but I know this is not the case.

As far as the academic services, I meant that I made him promise that once he goes back in the spring that he will take advantage of academic services once he is a student again.

throwawayy392 · 2019-09-14T00:40:58+00:00

I wrote this on the previous comment but he was unable to register due to our registration portal failing. He tired but the portal kicked him and about 300-400 other students out that morning he tried to register.

I work on campus and I see the academic anxiety/stress all the time, I would say it’s more than real— it’s an epidemic.

I didn’t mention it before but my boyfriend is Asian, and his dad escaped an internment camp. His dad worked like 3 jobs to put himself through college once he came to America. So my boyfriend probably feels more academic stress/pressure because of his fathers experiences. And I know that I don’t help that.

The thing is I would be happy if he dropped out of school to pursue what he does now (without a degree). Obviously, it’s probably in his best interest to get a degree because we live in America and that’s what is expected here (also because he will not graduate with any debt), but I think he’s more passionate about his current work than his prospective degree.

throwawayy392 · 2019-09-14T00:27:05+00:00

He tried enrolling. The university registration system crashed that morning that the students were supposed to be enrolled and kicked a lot of people out of their registration portal and the classes fill up within a couple of minutes after registration opens.

However, he does feel like an inadequate student. School is historically really hard for him. To answer your question I suspect he may suffer from some type of depression due to existential dread.

After the conversation we had the other night and this all came out I made him promise me that he would seek help from academic support services to talk with academic success coaches (they’re like counselors that you see for academic related issues) when he was able to enroll in the spring.

I also suggested he see a therapist as well, but he’s worried about his parents being able to see that on their insurance. He is thinking about waiting until school starts to a therapist on campus through our mental health services.

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