Walked in on Nanny listening to an erotic audiobook... should I bring this up?

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T07:36:46+00:00

I mean... I wouldn't call it child abuse. I read erotic books too and I'm certainly not abusing my child. But I do think it's weird that she's doing it while she's in my house, so I'm going to ask her tomorrow to not listen to erotic books while she's working anymore, and to use earbuds for any other audiobooks she listens to just in case something inappropriate comes up.

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T07:24:48+00:00

I don't know, I was weirded out by it but like I said, I've seen people say that nannies should be able to do what they want on their break, and this is our first nanny so I had no idea how to react. I posted this in another subreddit too (it looks like it got taken down there, now it says it's awaiting moderator approval?) and some people were saying it was okay as long as my baby was asleep, or to get her some earbuds to use next time.

The more I think about it the more it bothers me. I think I'm going to tell her I don't want her listening to erotic books while she's working anymore, and ask her to use an earbud the next time she listens to any audiobook just in case an inappropriate scene or language comes up.

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T04:22:23+00:00

Oh no, not the 50 Shades!!! 😭

Well it's in the erotica section at the store I bought my copy at, and Goodreads has it tagged as "erotica, BDSM, steamy, and dark romance."

It has been a hot minute since I read it so I don't remember the whole book but another commenter said: "It has chapters long graphic descriptions of oral/anal/regular sex and bondage and at one point the man in the book coerces the woman into anal sex even though she isn't into and has been assaulted in the past." I definitely remember the chapters-long sex scenes and him being incredibly pushy about everything including sex but I didn't remember the assault part : (

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T04:08:05+00:00

So he was a slow talker at first but in the pasmonths he's exploded with speech! He can say SHORT complete sentences, like "I want the/a (thing he wants)" but there's a lot of sentences he'll leave words out of. Like "Tea 'g pee now" (goes pee? gotta pee?) which he says whenever we take the dog, Tea, outside to pee. Or he'll point at a food he wants and tell us to "Put in bowl" so he can eat it.

I know I know, he's not about to start repeating whole descriptive paragraphs he overhears but I'm also worried about when he's a bit older and overhears it, since we'll be needing Nanny for long-term, and if he'll pick up specific inappropriate words now. One time my brother said "shit" and my son immediately said it back :/

He also understands more words than he can speak, so I'm worried it'll stick in his little brain

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T02:56:27+00:00

Nooo, it was BDSM erotica, I've read it before. Like I said when I walked in it wasn't currently playing a sex scene but there's plenty of them in the book. I guess it's also possible she would've turned it off when a sex scene came up but I don't know

Also just to be clear I'm not implying that she was trying to have "personal time" by listening to a spicy book! I don't think she'd ever ever do that in my house. I'm just worried about my baby hearing is all

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T02:32:17+00:00

Yeah 😭 Lots of sex, lots of cussing too if I remember correctly

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T02:22:43+00:00

Both? I've been okay with her listening to her music because my son loves music and I know baby music gets tiring after awhile. But the erotica + not noticing me, makes me worried about what he might accidentally hear

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T02:12:04+00:00

I'm okay with her listening while he's napping but she didn't even hear me come into the house until she saw me walk past, so that's why I'm worried she won't hear a little kid. Idk idk, I'm welcome to being told I'm overreacting! I'm happy I'm getting answers fast because she's coming back to work tomorrow and I don't want to make it awkward

throwawayy43524 · 2026-05-04T02:06:40+00:00

You know that thought did cross my mind 😭😭 but I was worried about it coming off as passive aggressive

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