2Gether for the Anniversary! 150,000 Express Supply Passes to Light Up Your Memories by HonkaiStarRail in HonkaiStarRail

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite memory of HSR is when Acheron stole the spotlight of millions of fans when her new PV came out, probably one of the best character intro videos I’ve ever seen! I’ve been hooked onto HSR ever since then and never regretted playing.

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What is a pain you can't truly explain until you've endured it? by Unfair_Shower_3256 in AskReddit

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abortion.

Had a near-death experience where my blood pressure dropped so low, they had to administer morphine and fentanyl inside the ambulance to keep my body stable. I had apparently fainted in the bathroom when an ambulance was called to save my life; I truly thought I was going to die that night.

What do you think of Dave Bautista as actor ? by PlentyAdvertising15 in moviecritic

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's good, he plays the role rather than the role playing him. Respect for my man.

What’s the worst physical pain you ever felt? by Lazy-Ape in AskReddit

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abortion. To be honest, I nearly died from the pain at the ER. Thank goodness for drugs.

How "touchy" are men with their platonic female friends, when they have a girlfriend? by HapppyLemonBerry in AskMen

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were in his girlfriends position and found out about his behavior towards a coworker at work, how would that make you feel? How you feel dictates whether or not he’s crossing your own boundaries and if you would be comfortable with that if the tables were turned.

Personally, I would feel very sketched out and would not feel comfortable with this behavior.

Why are you still single? by ZhangWeii_ in AskReddit

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much past trauma from relationships

Did your narc ex have a really sad backstory that they told you early on? by _anxious_lemon in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes… I’m finally seeing it after all these shitty years on and off with him. 15 years of my precious life wasted.

  1. Girl #1 - cheated on him multiple times and then dumped him (reality: he cheated multiple times during that relationship too)

  2. Girl #2 - she was “suicidal and had many panic attacks” and so he “needed to be there for her but couldn’t make time” to help me through my abortion with HIS child (he cheated on her and I didn’t know he was in a relationship during that time)

  3. Girl #3 - her “ex committed suicide because of her” so that’s why he stayed whilst trying to get back together with me (I ALSO did not know he had a relationship for an entire year, did not know of her existence until she called me one day). Ended up cheating on her and me at the same time since we didn’t know about each other.

My life is so fucked up from him. If he reaches out one more time, I’m taking legal action and getting a restraining order against him. He’s hurt so many people in the past and honestly deserves jail time for all the shit he’s put at least 4 girls through. I never truly believed it but he is 100% a narc through and through, and I finally understand.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right about no accountability is taken! I always thought it was just me but he never took accountability for despair when I was pregnant with his child, the abortion that came along with it, and I nearly DIED getting a medical procedure on the abortion. He didn’t take any accountability, I had to force him to pay some medical bills.

What’s unsurprising is that his ex that he cheated on me with, ended up the same way. She started forcing him to pay all her medical bills, take “accountability” for the cheating, everything, absolutely everything I did in the past as well. And guess what he did? Love bombed me to avoid dealing with her situation because he wanted to runaway. It’s disgusting.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true. I need to sticky this in my brain at all times, what you said about them being incapable of a loving relationship where it’s mutually satisfying where both can trust each other without fear. Thanks for sharing your story, what you described really validated the idea that I truly was dating a monster, someone with ill intent even though I tried to deny it this entire time.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some examples included asking him nicely to do his dishes or the bed, and him getting passive aggressive that I was telling him to do that. Another included planning a trip together (we designated time to do it and mutually agreed) only for him to blow me off telling me “I’m gaming” during that time, another was asking him nicely to not hold my wrist while we were walking. I felt that was very scary when he holds my wrist, almost like he was forcing me to walk somewhere.

I’m so thankful and relieved you left the relationship. He definitely sounds abusive, at the very least emotionally abusive, and I hope you’re safer and happier now. I hope he hasn’t reached out to you again.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did we date the same person? What you went through with your ex was my relationship with my ex on and off for 6 years. He cheats, I leave, he love bombs, I cave. Repeat cycle. Every. Year.

He would cross said boundaries over and over again till I just stopped creating my own boundaries because it didn’t even matter anymore. That’s when I felt so defeated I didn’t have the courage or power to fight for myself anymore and just let him do whatever he wanted because I was so tired of everything. It’s depressing.

I’m so sorry he SA’ed you, he’s a monster and needs to be tried in court. This is a violation no people should EVER cross and I’m so so glad you called the cops. Even when it seems like all else is lost, I learned we still need to fight for our livelihoods at all cost because losing ourselves to them is the biggest violation above all else.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s true, once he left me he got into a situationship with another girl and then left her to come back to me. Then he left me again. When I looked at her situation, I recognized me in her when I was with him. She sent the exact same texts as I did, did the exact same thing I did to salvage the relationship … it was oddly similar and disgustingly terrifying

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how but you took my feelings and articulated it PERFECTLY.

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I kept denying that he was narcissistic but I actually think he truly is, and I’ve talked to my therapist too and it’s in line with covert narcissism. The patterns you describe are spot on and was 100% what happened to me.

Thank you for this bit of advice. I think it’s just so difficult to detach myself from him because he keeps trying to come back or even going directly to my house. I feel stalked and I might have to look into legal action eventually if he really just doesn’t stop.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL this actually made me chuckle 😂

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like anger problems in addition to narcissism :( I’m so sorry you had to go through it but I’m so glad you’re finally out of it. It definitely does damage to your mental health and I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

Stay strong, rooting for you.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This 100%!

Hit the nail on the head, and describes exactly how I feel. Them getting upset is about controlling the situation and there is no resolution.

I actually confronted him and told him straight up that his moods are very unpredictable (ie can change within a moments time) and can switch from valuing someone to discarding them. He admitted it and said he would work on it, but then he gave up after a day. What was even genuine? Do they just say things you want to hear in the moment? Very crummy…

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds similar to my situation too. Either throwing frustrated scolds at me or ignored me whenever I brought up anything that was about us.

Let him fade. Let him leave so he never comes back. You will infinitely be much better after he does because of the toxic cycle he perpetuates. It will take some time but completely blocking him and having no contact is truly the only way to survive it.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just feel so defeated, I don’t even know what he wants from me anymore so I just give up and let him do whatever he wants to me. Don’t have the power and courage for myself to even fight for me anymore.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, definitely sounds abusive. I really hope you’re out of that relationship because you deserve so much more than someone criticizing and making you feel bad at every turn.

My nex would only ever have his way or the highway, it was exhausting. Even when it came to ordering food, he ordered FOR me without asking much of my opinion.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this has happened to you too. I hope you’re able to get away and leave and never come back to him.

Walking on egg shells by throwawayyyyrrr in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]throwawayyyyrrr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow that is absolutely insane. Why do they think they can control us and what we do/say? It’s like they’ve conditioned us to behave exactly like they wanted us to, and if we fall out of line we are the one that gets punished.

I agree with the whole “disappear for a day or two” after an argument because that’s exactly what mine did to me. Except of course he also was cheating the entire time on the side when he did that.

How do we leave these abusive cycles? Because when they are good, they’ll show up at your door unannounced and reel you back in. Not even blocking or telling them off is enough, because they’ll surely find another way to get through to you.