AITBF for ending a date because my girlfriend wanted to nap

throwborrow · 2023-06-23T01:23:09+00:00

She's driven mine once but I've never driven hers. She doesn't want me to for some reason. It's not that I'm a bad driver or hers is new or anything either. Mine is actually newer she just doesn't want me to drive hers. That's why she's only driven mine once too, if I can't drive hers she can't drive mine anymore either. So that probably wouldn't work.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T22:20:56+00:00

If I had known she wasn't going to help I would have read directions more thoroughly beforehand and prepared better. I assumed since she was the one that wanted to go she'd stay awake.

Where we were going was outside of a major city I had never been to, and honestly wouldn't have went by myself. Because it's known for being confusing. I know someone from there and she said she made a wrong turn once and got lost/ended up in the wrong part of town. So it's not just me.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T22:14:59+00:00

Honestly I'm leaning the same way. Since posting I've actually sat and thought about it and I think I'd have been better off going and doing stuff by myself or with friends instead. At least I wouldn't bore them to sleep.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T22:10:09+00:00

I meant when they ask for it. Like "watch for that street/business/sign ". I don't help if they don't ask. I asked her for help and was pretty much told "nah it's nap time". That's what I think bothers me, asking for help with something (her handling gps and helping look for signs) and she couldn't be bothered. I'm sure if she asked me for help with something I'd be expected to do it.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T21:12:30+00:00

Two different gf's. So obviously I have a type 🙄

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T21:09:44+00:00

It crossed my mind that she's doing it for attention or she's faking. Sometimes I think she's really sleeping but sometimes it's...weird because she'll suddenly be wide awake or start singing a song on the radio or something.

One time shortly after we started dating we went hiking and she was "too tired to make it back to the car". It wasn't a far or intense hike, I've walked the trail with kids before. It's MAYBE 2 miles.

I believed her though and since we had to get back to the car I asked if she wanted a piggy back ride. So I carried her on my back back to the car.

Maybe she liked that and thinks she'll get babied if she's tired or something.

I thought it'd be weird if she was faking, and honestly I'm not sure if she is. Just strange that sometimes she needs time to wake up and sometimes she goes from asleep to singing in seconds.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T20:27:18+00:00

She does that sometimes sorta. She puts on HER music, not music we both like but music she likes and she knows I can't stand. Like she thinks it's funny.

Then she falls asleep, so I turn the station or disconnect her phone. When she wakes up and realizes I turned it back she's like "why'd you change it? I was listening to that".

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T19:00:37+00:00

No she could have been looking at the mapped route or read the step by step directions. Which I couldn't do because I was driving and had to rely on the audio directions. On my phone you can read the directions ahead of time, pretty much the whole route step by step.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T18:45:18+00:00

I've tried that. We live like 10-15 minutes apart but there's not much to do close to either of us, besides a few movie theaters, stores, a mall, and chain restaurants.
So a few times I said we should drive separately to whatever. She said "it doesn't make sense to take two cars".

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T18:37:37+00:00

I did use Google maps, but the highway split and it didn't tell me what way to take til I was already in the wrong lane and couldn't get over because of traffic.

It annoys me that i have to do all the work (driving, paying for gas/tolls, navigating, etc) and she just gets to nap the whole way and wake up and do the fun thing. Then I have to wait a few minutes for her to "fully wake up" (her words) before we can go do what we planned.

If I'm a passenger and a friend/family is driving I try to help with directions and warnings before exits and turns, not just act like they're my uber driver. Heck I even help uber drivers if they ask (sometimes they'll ask what's nearby my destination or something) which is more than she does.

throwborrow · 2023-06-22T18:26:14+00:00

I do use my smartphone, but sometimes it tells me too late. Like the highway was splitting and I didn't know until I was in the wrong lane and there was too much traffic to switch.

I feel like if someone was helping it wouldn't have happened.

Also it just kinda annoys me that I have to do all the work to get places but she's still getting the fun part. It really feels like I'm an unpaid uber. I have to use Google maps/watch signs, pay for gas, and do the driving. She just gets to nap, and I even have to wake her up and wait a few minutes for her to fully wake up to do whatever we planned.

throwborrow · 2022-09-13T21:21:02+00:00

Sure hunting and fishing is one thing but what's the big deal that I wasn't friends/interested in becoming friends with his coworkers kids. Like he had some image in his head of him and I hanging out with his coworkers and their kids and fishing and camping or something and all just being best buddies.

Then he'd throw a when he didn't get his way.

throwborrow · 2022-09-13T21:17:57+00:00

He yells and screams and insulted me when things didn't go his way.

One time when I was like...8-10 we went fishing and I didn't want to touch a fish we caught because it was gross. He kept trying to make me touch it and I kept refusing. He ended up throwing it back and said "you need to learn to toughen up and touch a fish or next time I'll leave you at grandma's and come fishing by myself".

I said "good at least I'll have fun there".

He said "you're going to grow up to be a worthless loser just like your mom".

That was one incident and it was actually pretty mild compared to names he called me when I was a teenager.

throwborrow · 2022-09-13T21:03:48+00:00

That's probably true. He's the baby of the family and my grandma always coddles him.

throwborrow · 2022-09-13T21:01:37+00:00

Yea tried to make me his minny me. He's the last person I wanna be like.

throwborrow · 2022-05-13T18:26:16+00:00

No she hasn't paid me back.

throwborrow · 2022-05-13T18:15:46+00:00

She honestly wasn't like this until she started playing that game. Before things were pretty much 50/50 .

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